Hi. I have come to you all on this thread because after much reading, I believe this is the right place. My LO who is 7 months is very much a spirited baby as evident from even his first month of life. Although he has reflux, he is not medicated because we were advised that it was not necessary. After 7 months, he is still spitting up mildly (I gave up dairy and soy and he is exclusively bf) but he does not appear to be in pain as he is laughing sometimes when he does so. For the first month, LO cried all the time and was only comforted by the sound of a real blow dryer (vs applications on my phone). The crying diminished and by 6 months, he was crying much less and really only expressed true displeasure when bored or frustrated- especially in the car.
So. This is the issue. Due to heavy crying, he was held to sleep in first months often. I always tried to put him down partially awake and he would flash his eyes open when PD but still fall back to sleep. By 4 months, I was implementing shh pat for short naps somewhat successfully but it was not consistent; it would sometimes work and sometimes not. Tried holding through the jolts. Worked but he did not learn to sleep through on his own. Tried PUPD but only made him angry. He is still taking short naps for the most part and most recently is challenging the initial PD in his crib. What a nightmare. So finally after a sometimes "battle" to put him to sleep, he is awake as soon as you put him down. He is causing me to wait and hold him well into his sleep cycle now in order to put him down. I tried a few times before, patting, shhing, comforting while in the crib but rarely does it put him to sleep. Currently, I believe we are in an OT cycle as a result of all this. LO does NOT like to go to sleep for naps, but I can usually get at least two 45 minute naps a day with a possible catnap later if necessary. Only a month ago, I started to get an hour and half pretty consistently in the AM with a brief shhhing from me through the monitor after 40 minutes before he fully stirred. It doesn't work anymore.
I would love any advice or help with short naps and quick wakeups. My DS needs to learn to self soothe and return to sleep on his own (sometimes he can sleep 5-6 hours as he did often when younger). He has continual wakeups all night long varying from 5 to 15 wakeups in a night. I would like to begin gradual withdrawal but my experience with LO says that he will just lie there awake with a mix of crying, playing, wiggling and more crying. One night we tried for 2.5 hours, I massaged his legs and sang and stood there comforting at 1 AM determined to help him learn. He woke 45 min later (probably OT).
The thing is I am certain he will just skip the nap as I have seen it happen. So how do I begin? How can I help this little inquisitive man? He is desperate to stand and walk and has no time for anything but climbing and moving and certainly no time for naps. He legs never rest.
Thank you in advance for your experienced input!
Ali H