I also try to do errands/get out of the house after the first nap, but we live 30 minutes from anything, so she inevitably falls asleep in the car. Today I decided to try our ride home with naptime to see if she would get a 30 minute afternoon nap at least, bUT she only slept 15 minutes and it's 8:40 pm and we're going through the night time insanity. I feel at this point that the intense screaming at night is NOT a one-off and it's been at least a week that it happens. I think I'm getting an ulcer from it. Just kidding. Kind of.
Here's how today went:
6:30 - wakeup
9:45 - pd for nap/screaming until I nursed her (she was not due to nurse at all)
10:00 - asleep nursing
11:35 - awake
3:15 - 3:30 - asleep in car seat
6:30 - nurse and fell asleep nuring
7:50 - awake screaming
7:50 - 8:45 - tried various times to hold her, put her down, etc. And she's still awake. She us desperately tired, but the minute I put her down SCREAMS and ends up standing in bed. At this point I'm doing whatever I can to get her to fall asleep and stay asleep.