I need help, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and if I'm just prolonging my Lo's crying with what I have been doing. Anyone else didn't follow the guide to the tee and still had good outcomes? Any input would be greatly appreciated.
I started carrying my 4 month old for naps since he was 5weeks old as he won't go to sleep in his cot. At that point I didn't know how to do the shush pat properly and probably gave up on it too soon.
We started shush pat and pu/pd since last wed night for bed time and naps.
He still take about 30min even after a week to go to sleep.
His awake time is about 2hr, his nap routine is a quick song, swaddle, white noise on, close the blinds and down in cot. He invariably will start crying, what I have been doing is pick him up- pat and shush and some bouncing to get him to calm down, once calm I put into the cot, he cries again I pick him up, repeat till I can place him in the cot and continue shush pat till he falls asleep. I find that without the bouncing I can't get him calm enough to place in the cot. However I suspect he's starting to start falling asleep a little on me before he hits the cot (is that ok? When in cot his eyes are still open)
Any nap done in the cot he will wake at 20min- I've tried adjusting his wake times and it doesn't change. Recently I've managed to transition him from 20-40min with pacifier insertion and shush pat. Worked with pacifier and firm pressure on body as well. This will allow him to continue to nap to 65min- u have yet to manage to try to extend at the 65min mark yet. If he wakes early and I couldn't transition him on the cot, I've resorted to latching him to sleep instead of doing pupd again to extend his nap.
Bed time has still been a battle and is really discouraging after going through battles at nap times.
he gets a dream feed at 1030/11pm and used to only wake further 2 times for feed around 2am and 5am. Since starting pupd he wakings have become hourly from 3am onwards, again if I'm too exhausted I end up latching him to sleep.