Hello BW Friends!
We recently introduced the Gro Clock (2 weeks now) with our 3 year old and it has helped us in many ways. However, I think I can be more effective and consistent with it so I wanted to pick your brain to see how you taught your LO's to stay in their rooms when they had EWings (which is VERY VERY common in my household).
Just a bit of history, DD2 was just born recently and DD1 decided to start refusing BT, plus she is going through 1-0 nap so we are struggling with that. She can handle about 3 days of no nap and then NWing hell begins. In the past, we go in there, cuddle her in the recliner until she is drowsy and then put her down. Usually this works but takes several times. After the third day we can usually APOP a nap but then that started creating BT refusal. With the help BWers, we have found a method that works and I tell S that if she lays down then mommy will leave the door open. Otherwise, we close the door and actually had to hold the door closed a few times during BT until she got the point that she had to stay in her bed instead of running out!
Now, BT has gone smoother to where she will lay down and drift off without much fight so long as door as open. In the past when she had EWings (like this morning, 4:45!!) I go in there and hold her in the recliner and hope that she'll get in another hour. We make her stay in the room with us until Mr. Sun comes up and she's actually followed through. However, with the new baby, I can't sit in there with her and I need to train her to just stay in her bed on her own. I introduced the idea to her this a.m. I lay her in the bed and told her that she had to stay in bed until Mr. Sun came. The problem was Mr. Sun was set for 6:30 and it was a very very long wait for her. She did it but was screaming most of hte time.
Here are my questions:
1) We set Gro clock for 6 a.m. tomorrow though she wakes most days at 5 a.m. 6 a.m. is what DH and I want but should I set it back a little bit and slowly add more time? Will it be unsuccessful if she has to wait an entire hour the first time around?
2) She asked me this morning if she could have books and read because that's what we do for quiet time and I probably shouldn't haev done this but I allowed her. After talking to other moms, I like the idea of Mr. Moon meaning night time PERIOD so no reading etc. I'm thinking over time she will be able to do this and eventually fall asleep again...I would prefer the room to stay dark so she has the opportunity to drift back if she wants. What are your thoughts on this?
3) What did you do to keep your kids in their bed when training them to use the Gro clock in the beginning? I need to be able to nurse my baby without having to hold DD1 at 445 in the morning.
4) Should I do the same thing for Nwings? Usually I go and hold her till she is calm again. HOnestly, I'm a bit afraid to rock the boat for NWings and tell her no extra cuddle, especially since a lot of the times it is due to nightmares. What do you guys do?
Thanks so much for your insight! This 1-0 thing is so hard but if I can get S to get more sleep in the a.m. or at least give us more sleep...everyone would be happier =)