hi everyone,
my ds just turned 4 months old and i'm proud to say that we've finally beat the 45 min naps! he started doing them as early as 6 wks old and i tried EVERYTHING. for a while the swaddle and pat shush worked, but he got older and wiser and nothing seemed to work - paci, variation of pu/pd, white noise, singing, humming, i mean nothing.
then one day his morning nap lengthened, then his others followed. now he takes a 2hr morning nap, 1 hr afternoon, and 1-1.5 evening. talk about miracles.
it helped that i moved him to a 4hr easy and lengthened his awake time. **also, if you are breasfteeding exclusively, i can't stress enough to PLEASE EAT WELL. there was a period where it was a vicious cycle for us - he wouldn't nap well so i couldn't eat, when i didn't eat he didn't nap well. once i went to 4hr easy and forced myself to eat a good 4-5 meals a day, it was MUCH better. now he's rolling so that's a whole other issue but overall i have my sanity back.
he does also like his paci but it's not a problem. since he feeds less i notice he has the urge to suck more.
so hang in there whoever's reading this and don't give up on BW techniques. they work, and you'll eventually be able to put your lo down for sleep and walk away