Buttonbobs, thank you for your comments!
I have a couple of questions at this point:
1) Regarding her WU time: if she wakes up at 6 am crying, I can do shush/pat to put off her WU time till 7 am, right? But if she wakes up and just quietly stays in her crib till I pick her up, I cannot do shush/pat and should accept it as her natural WU time, right?
2) I understand that EASY s not a schedule, it's a routine. But do babies get used to particular time when things happen? What I mean is let's say today she wakes up at 6 am and her routine will be started at 6 am, so at 7.45 she will be sleeping when usually she has her activity time at this time if her day starts at 7am. The next day she would wake up at 6/30am, the day after that at 7 am.....Should I just start her routine at the actual time of her awaking? is it ok if her day will be starting at different times on different days?
3) You say: "If you want to encourage her to move her WU time later you may well need to go with her natural WU first and then shift the whole day slightly later once easy is established.'' - What do you mean by shifting the whole day slightly later? How would I do that?
4) When it's time for her nap, I take her to her room 15-20 minutes before her actual napping time starts, I draw the curtains, tell her that it's her nap time, change her diaper, and swaddle her...Usually she gets fussy as I bring her to her room around her nap time, as if she understands what is going to happen next(((