While food refusal can feel stressful, the fact is that until 12 mos of age, a childs nutrition is from milk/formula. Solids are for experimentation, and aren't a neccesity per se. I agree to change the tactic, don't put a bib on her, maybe sit her on your lap. Have you ever tried a baby-safe feeder? It's like a tiny mesh bag with a handle on it...dd LOVED it, we'd put apple chunks in it, melon, etc. They can't choke, but can get all the flavor and juices thru the bag.