Right....where do I start???....I think this might be a bit long winded...
DD is 16 months & has been sleeping 12 hours straight since about 9 months & happily goes down for her nap during the day (around 11am) sometimes even telling me she is tired with her tired / sleepy signing....no tears at all, although a few times recently she has stood up in her cot & shaken her head when I tell her it is sleepy time & that I will come & get her when she wakes up....so I have said ok just play with your teddies then....she lets me go out the room & promptly falls asleep.
The last few nights she has been waking in the night, the first time I thought it was because she had a slight cold & she got really upset when I left the room so I took her into bed with me (I am also sharing a bed with our 10 week old son who is waking me 2/3 times a night (BF). it took her about 1hr to stop fidgeting, when she was starting to drop off I took her back into her cot (still awake) and she went to sleep no problem.
Cold has pretty much gone & she is fine during the day & still going for her nap ok, but I think DS might be waking her during the night....I don't let him cry at all & just get him up when he starts fidgeting, although sometimes he lets out a little squeak when he can't get wind up....there is not really anything more I can do to keep these sounds from DD's room....it only seems to be certain times of night that she is sensitive to the smallest sound, other times a train going through the room would not wake her.
Anyway last night I went into DD when she started crying....wanted to check she had her dummy & teddies....told her it was sleepy time, she lay down but started to cry again as soon as I walked out....although she is crying she seems to be taking regular breaks from her "tears" to see if I am coming back in to her. Last night I didn't go back into her & left her for 10 mins when she did go back to sleep....I felt terribly guilty because it is the first time I have left her to CIO.
I have noticed that she is "Testing boundaries" with everything during the day & did not want to appear weak or set bad habits in motion if she is doing the same thing at night....just trying to get me to go in & get her out of her cot.....is there anything I can do to settle her back to sleep bearing in mind I also have DS to get up to in the night. It does seem & always has done that once she is awake she will take about an hour to settle back to sleep.
This will be hard because DH works long hours & also stays away overnight regularly...mum lives too far away & MIL just won't break her routine to come & help.
So....if you managed to stay awake through all of that....anyone got any ideas?
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thanks