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11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« on: February 22, 2007, 01:30:03 am »
Toby is 11 months and still shows no interest in finger foods (apart from munching on whole rice cakes!)  If I put pieces of food in front of him he just plays with them and shows absolutely no interest in eating anything!  He has a great appetite and eats all vegetables, meat, fish and fruit (I am not giving any dairy or grains other than rice based until 1 year as per advice of his pediatrician).
The fact that he's not showing any sign of wanting to feed himself or eat food off the tray in front of him tells me that he's probably not ready for finger foods - is that right?  I did read that the signs that they were ready was when they no longer wanted to be spoon fed?
His pincer grasp isn't that great - (although he does manage to use his pincer gras to delicately play with my nipple quite well after breastfeeding (TMI!)  He has a pincer grasp when it suits him!!!)
Any comments - should I just wait until he shows interest?
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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #1 on: February 22, 2007, 02:19:25 am »
At his age I would not suggest just waiting it out. He is already 11 months, and waiting too long with some children can result in (at times) complete refusal of finger foods into the toddler years. I think you need to look at why he is not showing interest. When he does try a food does he have trouble chewing it or gag? Is he hungry when you put finger foods in front of him? Are you presenting finger foods before the bottle? Are you presenting them before the pureed? How many bottles is he taking a day and when?

If you really look at what is happening you may see a pattern. I would suggest (if you are not already doing this) presenting "meals" in this order: finger foods, pureed/baby foods, and then the bottle (if he is getting it near a meal time). You might also want to try for a few days decreasing the amount of pureed/baby foods you give him to increase his appetite/interest in the finger foods. I would also be sure that he is not snacking during the day (including bottles/milk) so that he is truly hingry  and ready to eat when you present the finger foods!

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #2 on: February 22, 2007, 14:15:33 pm »
I'm glad I posted my question - I thought people would say that he's obviously not ready and don't worry!
Anyway, to answer your questions.  I know it may seem strange to a lot of you - but my pediatrician tells his patients, no dairy, no grains other than rice, no citrus fruits, eggs, no red meat etc until the first birthday.  This means that he advises only vegetables, non-citrus fruits, white meat and fish and rice based cereal or other rice things.  I have chosen him as my pediatrician as he has an excellent reputation and I know he does a lot of research.  I am not saying that his recommendations are right (as I am not a doctor!) - but as that's what he recommends, I'm going to follow his advice.  I would prefer to go on the side of caution anyway - it's not going to harm him by following that advice.  He has no allergies and we don't have allergies in our family.  I just thought I'd say why I am following this advice as I know people will ask!  I have asked him why he says this and he said it's not that babies get allergies the first, second, third time that they eat the food - it's that from the research he has done, if a baby has certain foods too early for their system, then they can develop allergies to things over time.  He said this is why allergies are on the rise.  Again, I am not saying that he is right - but wanted to just explain why he gives this advice to his patients.

Anyway, he eats pretty much anything - all vegetables including brussell sproats, asparagus, eggplant, cabbage - you name it. He always eats everything up with no problem (not always the fruit though). He is not as keen on sweet things but will eat my baked apples with raisins and cinnamon but will not eat banana.  Banana is about the only food he doesn't like (unless it's organic jarred food!)  I make all his food (I'm at home so I have time!)
I bought some rice pasta for him thinking it would be a good finger food but he just plays with it (he'll eat it when I feed him).  I show him all the time how to pick things up and eat them.  He'll hold a rice cake and munch on it quite happily but if I break up small bits and put it in front of him, he just picks them up and rubs them in his hand - and yes, I have fed them to him and he takes them fine but will not do it himself!  I have also tried peas, sweetcorn,carrots, small pieces of cooked apple or pear but again he just plays with them.  He's always hungry when I feed him - so much so that he cries when he sees his bowl going into the microwave rather than going directly to him!  Generally he doesn't really have snacks - I tend to breastfeed him in between meals.  He gets 4 breastfeeds per day and 3 solid meals per day.
I have cooked some big pieces of brocolli this morning and will try giving him a floret to hold and see if he'll eat that!  I'll let you know how we get on as I haven't tried that yet - I've really only tried small pieces.
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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #3 on: February 22, 2007, 19:42:43 pm »
Just letting you know that my ds was similar.  He could pick up anything, but wouldn't put it in his mouth.  So I fed him the finger food, or used a spoon.  He was eating the same dinner as we were, just not by himself.  Well, on his first birthday, he decided it was time to put the food in his own mouth.  Go figure.  ::)  He just wasn't ready until then.

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #4 on: February 23, 2007, 18:52:19 pm »
this is amazing! my daughter is the same. she's 11 month in just 3 days ans will only play with her FF. if i spoonfeed her, she'll it. 2 weeks ago, she took the banana and fed herself, did that for 2 days, then stopped and won't do it again. form this morning she started to refuse her bowl. now I think she might be board with it. I'll keep trying and hope that she'll decide soon, to feed herself. just like your LO.

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2007, 07:38:32 am »

my ds didn't master finger foods till his 1st birthday either :) he is still picky about what he has unless i am eating it so i am trying alot of finger foods too ;D
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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2007, 11:50:57 am »
DD is the same.... she'll be 11mo. in a week.(sigh)
She doesn't like her FF in cubes, she prefers it in long slices. She loves home-baked rusks, rice cake, star fruit, etc.(We live in Asia). She loves cherries, she loves holding it and slowly eating it. We have to stop giving her cherries coz all the sudden she decided to put the whole cherry in her mouth.
I have tried to cut sweet potato, carrots into cubes, but she doesn't like to put it in her mouth. She tried one cube of carrot today and didn't want to try another. Then I tried to give her a longer chunk of sweet potato, she grabbed it and started feeding herself. Is it possible that she likes the feeling of holding one big piece of food in her hand? I'm going to try broccoli tomorrow and see how it goes ::)

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2007, 23:30:57 pm »
I've tryed the long veggies so she can hold easily. she does hold, then squishes them. lots of fun! ( :-\ ) nope, she still doesn't feed herself and now is tired of the cereal too so i have to be more creative.
still no luck with the sippy cup. i bought the Nuby flip top straw cup and tryed it my self. it seems easier to suck from it and i hope she learn to drink from it.

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2007, 05:49:33 am »
I've tried brocolli today. It's easier for her to hold in her hands and made it easier to feed herself. What worries me is that she chews the food and the push it out with her tongue.  ??? She doesn't swallow it... any idea?

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2007, 13:04:40 pm »
If she will let you help try putting the food laterally (i.e. on the side of her mouth between her teeth) instead of in the middle of her tongue... ;)

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2007, 20:26:37 pm »
Babies need to learn how to manipulate food with their mouth muscles (including tongue) so the first time they try anything that's a different shape, or more solid, they won't know what to do with it. Don't worry about them spitting it out, they just need to practice and eventually they'll get it.

I'd advocate giving sticks rather than cubes coz they're easier to hold in chubby little hands and an end sticks out that can be chewed on - broccoli and cauliflower have naturally built in handles, long sticks of steamed carrot, sweet potato, parsnip, green beans, and baby corn are all good starters, and sticks of raw carrot, celery, pepper, cucumber, apple and pear are a bit harder and good for teething, and practising biting and chewing, chicken sticks and pitta bread fingers are good too!

If dd (8 months) bites a bit off and gags, and it is rare, she has learned how to move the piece of food back to the front of her mouth independently and is quite relaxed about the whole thing. Babies learn very quickly - let them explore the food in a fun way and they'll soon get the hang of what to do with it!

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #11 on: March 05, 2007, 02:35:55 am »
Thanks... I'll keep on trying. DD had a shot two days ago and has started refusing some of her food. She just wants her rusk ??? I guess that she might have developed some sore throat due to the shot... and tends to eat something more easier to swallow.  :-\

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #12 on: March 05, 2007, 04:13:59 am »
my lo does the same thing. but with everything. chicken, rice, broccoli etc. she chows on it but eventually will spit it out. i thought she didn't like it but now I'm not sure. maybe, like you said, she doesn't know yet what to do with it.
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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #13 on: March 05, 2007, 11:17:59 am »
I gave DD some finely chopped tofu with veggie puree today. She spat out some tofu in the beginning, but after a while she started swallowing them  ;D I'll give her more tofu tomorrow and let her practice more ;)

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Re: 11 months and not ready for finger foods?
« Reply #14 on: March 05, 2007, 18:49:50 pm »
one time i gave my lo miso soup with tofu and she loved it. so i went and bought soft tofu, mixed it with soup but she didn't want it. hope you have better luck. this morning she had some banana yogurt. after 3 days of trying she liked it.
i fill like I'm stuck with the food. not getting ahead. maybe it's time to switch and give her solids before bottle. problem is, she doesn't drink from sippy yet and is so anxious for the bottle in the morning.
any thoughts?