thanks for everyone's thoughts
I am almost wondering/hopoing this is just a horrible long phase that we just have to get through.
I have avoided a cat nap and longer late nap b/c it pushes his bedtime back so late - well, that was before. Now he won't fall asleep anyway so maybe I should reconsider. Also, I think that he sleeps in late enough in the morning that I don't know how I would squeeze it in.
The thing with trying to get him to sleep = He doesn't cry so I just leave him. I know, though that the playing in his crib is him resisting sleep due to being overtired. It isn't that he is not tired enough. He is tired when we go to the room, he rubs his eyes, yawns the whole business. Then boom he is up for 1-2 hours.
Our nap routine is lunch, quiet play for 10-15 min (waiting to see if he'll poop) then a few books, then naptime. Again, this is the easy part. when he wakes I have done wi\wo which only gets him wound up more, I have tried rocking him back to sleep and that worked for a little while and now he won't go back to sleep. He sometimes actually looks like he is trying to fall back to sleep with covering his eyes w/his lovey, shutting his eyes tightly, etc. for about 10 min then he is up for good.
Bedtime we do dinner, listen to some music, some quiet play, bath, lotion, TONS of books, jammies. When I ask him if he is ready for "night night" he is very agreeable. We do some rocking in his room. He acts as if he is going to fall asleep every time I rock him. There have been a few occasions when he has fallen asleep rocking, but for the most part he sings to himself, sucks on his lovey, rubs his eyes, yawns, and keeps his head on my shoulder the whole time.
Then it is party time for up to 2 hours.
I know he is tired, as the afternoons are a mess. Now with DST he woke at 8 am (7 am to him) so I am not sure what the day will bring. I want to try to move him back to his scheule of bedtime at 7 so I probably will put him down at 1230 for his nap and just see what happens. That will be 4.5 after wake up.
Thanks again for your thoughts.
Meg