Hi Marti,
Wanted to report on some small progress with the naps. I did push the am A time to 3.5 hrs, even a bit more and it seems to have an effect to the am nap, which is now about 1:25 (1:40 on one of the days), before it was 1:10. Then the pm A time is between 3:30 and 4 hrs, I watch for tiredness signs. I am also able to resend to sleep for the pm nap, which wasn't so before, so there's a progress there too. Unfortunately the pm nap falls on one of his "passing gas drama sessions" and it does not last long. It's obvious he wants to sleep more but he's squirming and crying all the time, not able to relax. On one of the days I put him to sleep for the pm nap earlier as he woke up early (but the A time was again 3.5 hrs) and it actually lasted 1.5 hrs!
So the routine now looks like this:
W & E: 6:30~7:00, milk
A: 3.5 hrs with breakfast at 8:30~9:00 (cereal & fruits)
S: 10:30 - 11:45~12:00
A: 3.5 to 4 hrs with lunch at 12:30~13:00 (veggies and meat or yolk)
S: still quite floating depending on wake up time and the length of the am nap but he's down some time between 15:00 and 15:45. The length as already explained varies but let's say about 45 mins, which is not enough, I can see it but with the gas story I can't do much.
A: about 4 hrs, including snack at 17:00 (cereal & fruits), bath at about 18:45 and milk before bed.
BT: 19:30~20:00
I think I will have to move BT a bit earlier though as it seems he's a bit OT by the time I put him in bed. I was wondering what time would you suggest if he slept 15:00-15:45 in the afternoon?
His nights are not brilliant either but again some of it due to another gas session he usually has 24:00~2:00 and not being an independent sleeper too. Then in the morning he wakes up anything between 6:20 and 7:20 and when it's more 6:20-ish, I think he has gas bothering him again and it maybe coincides with a period when he sleeps lighter and because he's not an independent sleeper.....
So I thought giving W2S a try at about 5:30? Does it make sense or do you think it's not appropriate in thi situation?
I know, I know - teaching independent sleep will most probably improve things the most but as explained I won't start that until I know I can see it through and not give up in the middle. I do try to let him fall asleep on his own though. I start the nap/BT routine and then rock and walk him shortly, then put him in his cot awake, lie on the bed next to his cot and pretend I am sleeping. He'd go around the cot and do his kind of things and get sleepier and sleepier and eventually (a) fall asleep - that's usually the am nap but yesterday I had success with the pm one as well (b) get agitated, cry and squirm - that's the pm nap and BT so far. He almost does it for BT but something bothers him I think, and maybe he's a bit OT too, so when he's jsut about to fall asleep something happens.. In those cases I try to put him down a few times but if he protests loader I just rock him.
So, what do you think? What time would be appropriate for an earlier BT and should I try W2S or no point in doing that for the earlier wake up?
Thanks!