Hello!
I just joined this forum as I am at my wits end and have no idea what I should do. For some moms, taking care of a baby seem so effortless but for me, even when I'm giving my best and then some, it's still not working.
A little bit of background about my boy. He's 8.5 month old. Everything about him is challenging. I don't even know where to start. He has never been a great sleeper since day 1. He would cry and cry when it was bedtime. Because of that, I used to wear him alot when he was a newborn. He would sleep on me or in a sling for naps. And for night time, he would not sleep in the bassinet and we resorted to bed sharing. Up till he was 5 month old, he had to be held for naps and he would nap great, on average 1.5-2 hrs nap. Night time, different story, we would just put him down and he was able to fall asleep on his own. He was using a pacifier to fall asleep and once he was asleep, he would spit it out. He was sleeping next to me so in the middle of the night when he fussed, I would just replug the paci and he would settle immediately. About a month ago, he started waking up 8-10 times a night and I had to replug his paci. He knows how to replug it himself when he's fully awake but not when he's sleeping. I decided to stop giving him pacifier cold turkey and we're on day 2. He would fall asleep just fine but he couldn't stay asleep. I also started his transition to his crib 2 months ago during naps and a week ago for bedtime.
Day 1 of paci removal:
First nap, he went down fairly quickly and he fussed 40 mins into his nap. He was able to go back after I shh/pat him and he had 1hr 20min nap. Second nap, he went down fairly quickly as well but he fussed at 36 mins into his nap and I tried to get him back to sleep but it wasn't successful. Bed time, again, he went down pretty quick and stayed asleep for 5.5 hours then he woke up. First he was just fussing then he was crying hard. It took me 2+ hours to get him back to sleep. He was so frustrated and he didn't know how to soothe himself without his pacifier in the middle of his sleep.
Day 2 of paci removal:
Same as day 1, he went down fairly quickly but he fussed at 40-45 mins into his nap. And he woke up fussing for his second nap followed by hysterical cry as if he was still tired. First nap lasted 1hr 15min and second nap lasted for an hour.
His EASY routine:
7:30 - wake up
7:45 - Bottle
8:45 - solid
1030 - nap (1hr - 1hr 20 min)
11:45 - bottle
12:15 - A
2:30 - nap (1hr)
3:45 - bottle
5:00 - dinner
6:15 - bottle
7:00 - bedtime
With or without paci, he always fussed at 40-45 min into his naps. With or without paci, he wakes up at night. With or without paci, he has never slept over 1hr 20 mins on his own (while not being held by anyone).
During his awake time, I have him on his tummy trying to encourage his to crawl or sitting down playing with his toys and try to encourage him to get to tummy position from seated position. I take him out for ±30 minutes walk twice a day. I also let him play in his jumperoo although he's not jumping. He just stands there playing with the stuff around the jumperoo.
Any suggestions or criticism are welcomed as I really don't know what else I should do... I'm exhausted emotionally because it feels like I've failed him that he doesn't get good naps/sleep.
Thank you so so much in advance!