Hi
Thanks so much both of you and sorry for the delay in replying.
Woke up on Saturday morning to find DS had spots all over him! Thought it was chickenpox but apparently it's just some other virus. Anyway, he's pretty miserable and not settling as well for naps at the moment anyway. So, I'm not going to change anything until he's better but I think we still do need a shift.
Both of your EASYs look great and I would love DS to do that. Yes, Trimbler he is very similar to your DS and I remember you helped me to cut out the OT early night waking. In fact, he's just started to STTN for some nights and we rarely get the dreaded wake up 2 hours after going down (still sometimes get the 3 hourly one but it's improving all the time!). However to get there, he seems to need his 1 hour morning nap plus another 1.5 hour nap and then I need to get him down at night less than 3 hours after waking up from nap 2 to avoid OT.
So, I'm worried about moving nap 2 earlier as I'm not sure he'd do a 2 hour nap regularly (although as I often wake him at 1.5 hours for the PM nap who knows?!). I don't think he'd do your lovely 2.5 hour nap Laura though, sadly. I have to get the A time in the middle of the day exactly right or he'll just do a shortish nap and then even with an EBT I'm pretty much sure of a rubbish evening with lots of wake ups.
To make things more complicated, if he STTN he seems to only really do 11.5 hours, which means EBT doesn't work so well. DH and I were discussing this earlier as we keep on getting woken at 5am each morning and it's touch and go for an hour whether we are going to have to get DS up or whether he'll doze and chat! I don't really want to start our day earlier than 6am really.
I'm wondering whether something like this looks really mad:
WU-6/6:15
Nap-9:15-10:15
Nap-2:10-3:45/50ish (if he'll sleep that long)
BT-6:45
So instead of cutting nap 1, I lengthen his day a bit as he never sleeps for 12 hours anyway any more. Hopefully he might do a more solid 11.5 hour night and wake up closer to when I'd like him to get up! His morning A is often longer than 3 hours really as he plays around in his cot for a while!
Trimbler - when he was 6 months, he needed a 3 hour A after a 35 minute nap to get a 1 hour and 20 minute 2nd nap! He's always had a really long A time in the middle of the day. I think TBH he could do 4 hours but am scared of trying in case he gets OT. I don't want to shorten his night to less than 11.5 hours but I'd love him to WU a bit later.
It's all so complicated now I write it down! I'm guessing that he needs about 14 hours sleep in 24 overall but who knows? He gets OT so easily that maybe a bit more would be good if I could get it
Sorry this is SO long! And thanks.