Right, I'm back. He's on the maximum amount of Ranitidine according to my Dr (although she did say she would check with a paed) so she told me to use it alongside Gaviscon which I am. The G does seem to help him but it's just a pain to give it as I BF.
So, the naps - I've tried longer A time, shorter A time - nothing seems to work. The other day when we were in the waiting room at the Drs, he was sat in his car seat and it was nap time. I watched him get really drowsy and drift off to sleep. When he goes to sleep in his cot at home, there's usually a bit of fussing/shouting/crying involved - he doesn't do a continuous cry, just cries out every now and then before going to sleep. Is the problem that he's not relaxed enough before nap time? For a wind down all we do is say goodnight to everyone downstairs, sing a song on the way upstairs, I hold him for a minute or two in the room then put him in the cot wide awake. If I try to hold him too long, he seems to get very wound up. He has on some occasions gone to sleep without a noise but not very often and he hasn't slept any longer. At BT, he has a bath, goes in his sleeping bag, song on the way upstairs, quick flick through a book in the bedroom (about 2 pages as he starts squirming) then he goes in his cot - 9 times out of 10 he doesn't make a peep at bedtime and goes straight to sleep.
Another thing is, when he wakes at 45 minutes, he often seems wide awake. When he is transferred midnap to his car seat for the school run and has a long nap, it's really hard to wake him up and he's like a zombie afterwards - is that just because he's been in deeper sleep?
Look, do I just need to give up on this - be honest! I've seen so many posts from other mums about 30 & 45 min naps. I try to think "Oh well, just let him do what he wants and get on with your day" but I really struggle. As soon as I hear him waking up on the monitor, I feel my stress levels go through the roof. Resettling him doesn't seem to work and to be honest, I find it really hard, esp as I've got DD too. I'm just so worried that doing nothing will result in some sort of problem/habit becoming firmly established. With DD, I went through 6months of 45min naps and HOURS of rocking to sleep every day before I discovered the BW techniques. I swore to myself that thiings would be different with my second baby and was determined to teach him to self soothe, which he can do - I thought that would pre-empt problems like short naps but obviously not. I find it so soul-destroying.
