Hi! I could use a little help. We have 7.5 month old b/g twins. We started BW about 2 weeks ago. This post will focus on DS as he's the one we're having the most trouble with. A little background: babies are small (5th percentile), were born at 37.5 weeks, and DS is a classic Spirited baby, breastfed, we started solids at 6 months and both are good eaters. Before we started BW, the babies were on a very loose routine. They were fed on demand but had regular naps with awake time being about 1.5-2 hrs. DS napped well (3naps about 1.25 hours for 2 of them and 30-45 min for the third). But he woke frequently and regularly (every 1.5-3 hours) at night and woke very early in the morning. We were feeding him twice a night, breast or bottle and rocking/bouncing/holding him back to sleep. He also relied on his swing to sleep in day and night. We have never tried nor do we believe in CC or CIO. He is a flailer, kicker, thrasher who startles easily so we still keep him in his woombie. Since starting BW he now sleeps in his crib, wakes a little less at night, only gets one feed a night, and we don't bounce/rock him back to sleep. However, his naps are now very short, no longer than 30 min, we'd like to still cut back on the night waking, and he gets up at 5:30 am every day. So a typical day for him looks like this:
5:30am - wake
5:30-700am - PUPD/shh pat, usually unsuccessfully and we give up and get him up at 7
700 - breastfeed
800 - breakfast
900-1100 - naptime which consists of 0-3 30min or shorter naps. We use PUPD/shh/pat to try to extend each short nap.
1100 - BF
1200- lunch
100-300- naptime same as above. Never sleeps more than 30 min at a time and sometimes the 2 hours go by and he hasn't napped at all while we've done PUPD/shh pat the whole time. Shoot me.
300- BF
400- snack
500- 30 min catnap. Yes he usually does this one.
530- BF, dinner
630- bedtime routine, BF
700- asleep
1030 or 1230 - first night waking, back to sleep with shh pat/ PUPD
230 - 2nd night waking, gets BFed or bottle, takes a full feed
430 - 3rd night waking, shh pat/PUPD
530- awake, shh pat PUPD til 7, rarely we can get him to go back to sleep around 630 for 30 min or so.
So my questions are: Should we be doing a dream feed? How do I get him to sleep in til 7 or 630 at least? How can I get him to nap longer? Is it unrealistic at this age to hope he sleeps 7-7 with no waking and no feeding? PUPD and shh pat work sometimes... Other times he just screams like a banshee anytime I even think about putting him down. Am I doing it wrong? Also, maybe I'm clueless but I can't tell the difference between a hungry cry, mantra, etc... He's quite the screamer and if he wakes, he NEVER settles himself. It just escalates to insane screeching. The type you worry about what the neighbors must think. Where do I start?! Please help! We are very sleep deprived and starting to loose faith!
Thanks in advance,
Natasha