Hello everyone
I'm new here and would desperately need help with my 17,5 month old daughter who has been having WU anywhere between 5-6am for more than two months.
She had very rough time transfering to one nap (actually we're still not nicely there). The last time when we had constantly normal 6.30-7 am WU her routine was:
WU 6.30-7
S 11.15 for 1-2.5h
If short nap, then a 15-30min CN around 4-4,5 hrs later
BT 18-19, depending the nap lenght and if CN or not
This was months ago until it started to be hit or miss whether she took the CN or not and that's when she also started to wake up anything after 5am and we've been stuck with early start since then.
Her night sleep is between 10-11.5h (used to be 12h), sometimes she has lots of NW and sometimes she's having good night of 11-11.5h of sleep without any NW (first time in her life) but is still waking early because had EBT. She doesn't tack on her night sleep at the moment (used to), so EBT is EW. Her total sleep in 24h has been 11.5-12.5h (used to be 13.5-14h).
I tried set nap and BT but in a week she was a mess, waking up every 30-60min at night and having short naps because her days got too long.
Then I went by A time, no matter it gave early nap and SEBT, she then had 12 h nights and decent naps but we were stuck in EW/EBT.
I've tried some 2 nap days in some 5am WU days to catch up if she has been too OT but don't really get any catching up, she either don't take both naps or then doesn't go down at BT. So doesn't work anymore.
Now I'm trying set nap at 12 and BT after 4.5-5h after waking up from nap (more than that and she starts to have more NW) depending the morning WU time and nap lenght and by that way trying to keep her day in max 12h and to prevent her to get more OT.
She's textbook/spirited and sensitive to OT and when too OT she starts to short nap (no chance to resettle then) and have lot of NW.
Also since month ago it started to took her an hour to settle in BT. I've tried shorter and longer A times before BT but no difference. I even have tried to APOP her to sleep faster but anyway it takes an hour
The last days have been:
BT 19
NW 22.15
NW 23.40
NW 3
WU 5.35 (doesn't resettle)
S 11.55-12.45 (doesn't resettle)
BT 18 (we were out and didn't get home before so was longer day)
NW 22.50
NW 23.40
NW 3.30
EWU 4.30
Able to APOP back to sleep from 5.30-6.45
S 11.50-13.40 (resettle in 1.10h mark)
BT 18.40
NW 1.15
WU 5.45 (doesn't resettle)
S 11.55- 13 (doesn't resettle)
BT 17.45 (took forever to fall asleep)
NW 23.40
Today:
WU 4.40
APOP back to sleep 5.10-6.35 (wakes up briefly at 5.20 and at 6)
I'd really appreciate some advice am I doing the right thing at all and what could be that kind of routine I should aim for? Should I try set BT again or keep it flexible?