Lol at grilled cheese/cheese toastie - DS LOVES them! He is 20.5 months old and does pretty good with a spoon, starting to get handy with a fork. We taught him how to "stab" with his fork, too and grilled cheeses were one of the first things that worked. We also found that giving him something to dip in encouraged his use of a fork. Ie. we would put a little squeeze of ketchup on his plate with the grilled cheese and tell him to "poke" a piece of sandwich, "dip" and "eat." He loves that! Other things that worked will to poke up with his fork were squares of toast, waffle, pancake and small dices of chicken.
As for the spoon, here are some no fails around here - weatabix cereal warmed and mushed up with milk, cheerios with an oz or two of milk in the bowl (messy but works), small cups of applesauce (no sugar), small cups of yogurt, macaroni pasta (we make one with white cheddar macaroni mix and then stir in browned ground turkey with mushrooms, onions and green and red pepper cooked in with the meat. DS goes nuts for this!
HTH!
