Hi all,
I'm wondering whether anyone has any suggestions for my 6.5 month old LO. He's always been a terrible sleeper - in fact as a newborn he was waking to feed 3-hourly and that's the best it's ever been since!
I'm just starting to try an EASY routine after implementing
some sort of routine for the first time in the last 2 weeks as I'm just so tired that I feel we need SOME structure to see if it helps.
At the moment he generally wants to feed before sleep, which I'll need to work on somehow. However, I've been working on getting him to go down in his cot drowsy but awake and that's been going ok so far but hasn't really helped his night sleep.
He was having 2 long-ish naps a day in the morning and late afternoon with a short one at lunchtime but yesterday he dropped to two long naps only and he's maintaimed that today so maybe he's really down to only needing two.
His routine (yesterday and today anyway!) generally looks like this now:
6.30-7am Wake - sometimes he'll BF depending on when his last NF was
8am breakfast
9.30-10am nap, usually after a small BF
11.30 wake
12.30 lunch
1.30-2pm BF
3.30 nap (today he wouldn't go down until 4.15pm!) after small BF
4.30-5pm wake
5.30pm dinner
6.30pm bath
7pm bottle
7.15-7.30 bed (except today he wouldn't go down until 8.15 due to late nap)
After this he usually wakes around 11-11.30pm when I feed him (I'm thinking of it as a kind of DF). He then stirs at least once between then and 3am when he usually wakes up fully for some reason and takes AGES to resettle. I used to be able to resettle him with his dummy but now that only works some of the time. At other times (like last night) he is just wide awake and fighting sleep even if I rock him, sing to him etc etc. I used to offer to BF which would work even though he wasn't hungry but lately that's not worked either. We eventually give in and take him into our bed where he'll often fall asleep if I hold him close but only after being awake for at least 1-1.5 hours
I don't know if there's an element of SA as he WILL NOT settle for DH whatever he does.
He then sleeps fitfully in our bed (I can't sleep with him in the bed tbh as he's such a fidget), stirring for his dummy at least 5 times until he wakes at 5.30-6am when I feed him. He'll then dose until 6.30-7am when he's up for the day, seemingly regardless of bedtime
I don't mind feeding him twice a night if that's what he needs (although I'm not totally convinced he needs both) but it's the constant stirring and resettling plus the being awake for hours in the middle of the night that's driving me insane. I thought it was a dummy problem so weaned him off for a while but it made no difference. in fact I often notice that he's stirring with the dummy in his mouth, and he can definitely re-plug himself if needed but he hardly ever does. He has sttn with one wake for feed at 4am twice since he was born so i know he can do it.
I'm thinking of trying PU/PD at the 3am wake...do you think this is a good idea?
Could i tweak his naps or routine at all?
Sorry for the essay - if you got this far then thanks
Any advice is much appreciated!