Right, I'm back :-)
A quick update before I launch into questions ;-)
LO is now nearly 8mo and the daytime EASY is going really well. His day time naps are generally good and predictable although he's showing sleepy times earlier for his morning nap now (I read about the 2,3,4 babies...I'm wondering whether he's one of those as it kind of fits).
7am WU and BF
8am breakfast
9.15-9.30am nap for 1.5 hours
11am BF
12pm lunch
2-2.30pm nap for 1.5 hours
3.30-4pm BF
5pm dinner
6.15 bath then bottle of around 6-7oz
7-7.30pm sleep
The NW are currently happening at some point between 12.30-2am, when I usually feed (I'm trying not to feed before 5 hours have passed since last feed) and he's recently been going straight back to sleep which is an improvement.
Next NW is often around 4-4.30am when i usually can resettle without a feed by flipping him onto his front (he's a tummy sleeper but rolls onto his back at night and can't seem to roll back even though he can in the day). He then sometimes wakes for a feed around 6am but seems to have been phasing this out the past few nights and has been going straight through to his 7am WU feed which is great.
The previous problem of long NWs seems to (touch wood) have sorted itself out. The NEW problem (there's always something!) is that he's become a NIGHTMARE to get to sleep in the evening. He goes down fairly easily after his bt routine at 7pm ish, but for the last week has been waking an hour later and screaming the house down.
We tried PU/PD but I now think it's too stimulating for him as it takes hours and he thinks it's a game. The last two nights we've tried a version of shush/pat whereby we avoid lifting him from the cot and try to settle him by placing a hand on him and soothing with our voices, so he knows we're there but learns that he has to go to sleep in his cot. It works eventually but last night it took 2 hours of alternating between mantra crying and literally screaming. It was horrendous for all of us.
I probably made it worse by taking him out of the cot at one point to re-check his nappy and re-burp him, just in case, and he settles straight away and goes to sleep if I'm holding him. We gave him painkillers for his teeth before bed as a bottom tooth has just burst through, but tbh it doesn't seem to bother him much in the day.
Anyway, eventually he calmed down and went to sleep in his cot (it was 9.30pm by this point) and woke at 1.30am for a feed as usual.
My questions are:
Do you think we're doing this wrong? Should we persevere with PU/PD or now that we've started to keep him in his cot at BT should we stay with that? I HATE hearing him cry, but he's reassured all the time, he's never left alone and I'm confident that he's not in any pain, just fighting sleep tooth and nail. We're desperate to get him to settle better in his cot (we were co-sleeping on and off before out of desperation) as we're moving to our new house next week and want to start transitioning him to his own room.
Is it still feasible that he needs 2 NFs at his age? I don't mind feeding him if he'll go straight back to sleep but i don't want to perpetuate a prop and I've no idea how to tell which it is I'm doing.
Could he be OT by bedtime? Should i try to tweak his routine? I can't work out if he's OT or UT and frustrated as he doesn't feel tired.
Sorry for the essay and all the questions...I feel like we're SO close to working this all out but it's one step forward and two back atm.
Thanks for any responses :-)