Hello -
I'm new to posting but have become very desperate for advice so please help if you can! My DS is 13.5 mo and I'm trying to do the 2-1 transition. I feel like its quite early but his nap times have been moving back and back to the point where the second is ridiculously late so I thought that was a sign. Now I am doubting myself A LOT! He's a spirited child and has always done well with clear boundaries. He's also always had very random wake up times (anything between 5.30 and 7 is normal for us....) and PD technique does not work in the mornings (but does work at other times).
Now I'm trying to get him to 11.30/12ish for his nap with the idea that I bring his BT forward. His nap is about 1.5 hours and then in the afternoon tends to get seriously OT. This has led to him becoming really aggressive and he has begun scratching and biting out of frustration (often objects, sometimes me). For the last three days he has refused his milk before bedtime, which was always part of his bedtime routine. He is now crying to sleep and we have to be in the room with him until he is completely asleep or he just starts crying again (previously was very happy to go to sleep by himself for naps and BT). He's started waking at night occasionally. He is having EWs more and more (woke at 4.55am this morning). Obviously then I have to do two naps again. I feel like I had a really balanced, happy, albeit super-active child and I've somehow created a monster. I'm so overtired and stressed that I don't feel like I'm being as patient and I could be...
Is this just how hard it is to do the 2-1 transition or is this all a sign that I've jumped ship too early and should switch back to two naps??? I don't want to do the latter if the former is true as I'll just have to go through all of this again.
If anyone has any advice I would be REALLY thankful.