feel like giving up...please advise

[elliotlove]

My son is 3mo old and 2 weeks. We have been trying 3 hour EASY for a week now. His typical full feeding (after 3 hours) is 3 oz sometimes 4. He is sleeping 7 hour stretches (but the one day that he napped "Correctly" he did 9 hours)

He goes down easily for naps....hardly ever fusses. However, he is waking after 50 - 60 minutes....I try the shh pat but he's just awake.
I get him up and wait for the 3 hour mark to feed him..then..I put him to bed an hour and half after he had gotten up (even though he got up at the incorrect time). I keep hoping that things will fall into place....but they arent.

Am I doing all I can at this point?
Should I try to keep him awake longer....like an hour and a half after his feeding (instead of when he first woke)?
 IF I take him out in public he is cranky so I know he needs more sleep. I feel like a prisioner in my own home and it gets depressing.

[brightside]

I don't really have much advice but I'm right there with you. My DS only has 30-45 minute naps. Its just a phase and they will grow out of it but you could try some of the wake to sleep techniques. I wouldn't keep him awake any longer than 1.5 hours if he is tired or he'll jsut be worse. In the meantime you just have to adapt EASY a little. Good luck!

[teezee]

have u tried wake to sleep technique? i have never done it myself although in your situation it may help.  also, what temperment is your lo??  if he is spirited the shh/pat together may be too stimulating for him.  have u tried just shhhhing or just patting on their own?  at that age my lo started noticing much more in the world and often i would do a long shhh noise while covering her eyes (more shielding) from anything stimulating i would keep trying different techniqies til u find something that clicks for the two of you.  how is his nighttime sleep? i wouldn't keep him up longer than that as u don't want him to be anymore overtired than he already is.

[Brandonsmom]

When my lo wakes up early from a nap and I can't get him back to sleep I take him out of the crib and sit quietly with him for a few minutes. (Either rocking or reading to him) Then he usually shows the sleep cues 15-20 min. after he wakes up early. After they appear I go into the soothing routine to get him back to sleep. I've also started doing this today and it's worked so far...45 min. into his nap when I hear him beginning to stir I go in and give him his paci (which has fallen out by this point) then pat him on the back (I also have a sound machine on) It worked great the few times I've done it. Usually I stand there over him for about 15 min. until he drifts off to sleep. Something else, in my case, when Brandon started ending naps early I tried to extend his routine and it worked. I went from a 2.5/3 hour routine to a 3/3.5 hour one and it seemed to help with the naps. Also my lo is 10 weeks. You'll probably find by extending his routine he might eat more too.

[elliotlove]

thank you!
how many oz does your lo take in a typical feeding? elliot only takes 3 oz so I thought extending the routine would be rough on him

[brightside]

Elliot will probably start to take more once you extend the routine. My DS takes about 7oz at each of his 5 feedings. He weighs 13lb 7oz. He switched to a 4 hour routine very easily.

[teezee]

could u post your routine for us?  i do agree with the point that the previous poster said that u should definately start to slowly extend his routine as it will help him take more at feedings and may help him sleep better if his A time is longer - only speculation at this point - but could help u tweak a bit if u posted the routine!