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Title: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Site Admin Team on November 25, 2010, 00:24:11 am
Tracy Hogg, RNMH “The Baby Whisperer"
Born and raised in the north of England, Tracy worked in several reknowned hospitals including St. Catherine's Hospital for the Mentally Handicapped, where she first discovered her gift for understanding children's cries, gestures, body language, and other nonverbal cues -a talent she would later apply to babies. When she emigrated to the United States in 1992, Tracy began to work exclusively with parents and their new babies, helping them make the transition from delivery room to first diapers and eventually into toddlerhood.

In 2001 Tracy, working with her co-author, award-winning journalist Melinda Blau, published her first book, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How To Calm, Connect, and Communicate With Your Baby, which instantly became a New York Times bestseller. Just one year later, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer for Toddlers was published and became a national bestseller as well.  
In June 2002 Tracy teamed up with Discovery Health in Great Britain to produce a fifteen-part television series entitled The Baby Whisperer. Each episode demonstrates not only Tracy's incredible problem-solving skills, but also her compassion for children and parents.
In 2004, even as she was battling a life-threatening disease, Tracy and her co-author collaborated on The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems. Because Tracy knew that this might be her last book, she was determined to cover every conceivable problem so that even if she couldn't help parents personally, her book would.

Sadly, Tracy lost her battle to melanoma on November 25, 2004. Six years later her legacy lives on in her books, her tapes, her television programmes, and, mostly, the spirit of this website. The Babywhisper website realized one of Tracy's greatest dreams: to create a place where thousands of devoted parents can come to share their experiences and to support one another. What she possibly didn't imagine, though, was that this virtual community would also make sure that her wit and wisdom could never die.    

We hope that you will join us in paying tribute to Tracy on this thread. The thread will remain here in this board as a lasting tribute on this special day.

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Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Colin Macs Mom on November 25, 2010, 00:28:41 am
God Bless you Tracy. Thank you for saving our family.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: ~inbalance~ on November 25, 2010, 00:31:43 am
Tracy, thank you so much for giving me the knowledge and the tools to be a better parent. 
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Jaime on November 25, 2010, 00:50:24 am
Tracy, thank you for teaching me how to listen to different types of babies and then respond appropriately. 
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Tweakster on November 25, 2010, 00:59:19 am
Tracy, in my darkest hour you gave me hope.  Your compassion, your strength, your wisdom and honesty have left an imprint on my soul and I am forever grateful that I am a better mother because of you and your methods.  Your legacy lives on within our hearts.  Through this site we will spread your teachings across the world and support as many parents as possible, because we are forever indebted.

Bless you always.


Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: lilybug25 on November 25, 2010, 01:01:04 am
Thank you Tracy, for showing me how to respect my child and be the best parent I can be.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: tigerlilly905 on November 25, 2010, 01:01:33 am
Tracy, thank you for touching our family in ways I can't even explain.  We are forever grateful for your teachings.  God bless you and your family always.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Meditrina on November 25, 2010, 01:10:20 am
Tracy, thanks you for finding me in a very isolated and dark place and bringing me back to the light, thank you for teaching me to respect my little people for who they are and giving me the tools and support to work through it all in the past, present and furture, and thank you for changing my life and the lives of my children.   
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Jiinx on November 25, 2010, 01:22:28 am
Dearest Tracy,
 Thank you for teaching me to trust and listen to my instincts. The bleak times were incredibly difficult, but you gave me that hope to persevere. I'll forever be grateful for your invaluable knowledge and your tireless work with babies. Your legacy will remain forever and passed on for generations to come.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: katie80 on November 25, 2010, 01:39:08 am
I am ever grateful for your Baby Whispering strategies. Thank you, Tracy!!
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Canwi on November 25, 2010, 01:44:52 am
Once again I thank you for writing down the lessons I needed to learn to gain the skills I needed to become the mother I wanted to be.
I will remain ETERNALLY grateful for your accurate and honest description of reflux, for it was your book that gave me the description and consequently a correct diagnosis for DS2.  

I wish I could tell you this in person. You were taken much, much too soon from us. :'(

Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: ~ Vik ~ on November 25, 2010, 01:47:48 am
Thank you Tracy, for teaching me to listen to my baby and giving me the tools and techniques to be the best parent I can be.  God bless you.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Mrs. A on November 25, 2010, 01:52:01 am
Thank you, Tracy, for giving me the opportunity to be a better mother than I would have been without your wisdom. Thank you for teaching me how to communicate with my children in a very real way.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: teilvnav on November 25, 2010, 02:07:15 am
Everything pp's have said and more! Just... thank you.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: lilac83 on November 25, 2010, 02:38:46 am
It has been almost 2.5 years now since I first picked up The Baby Whisperer book. Little did I know that book would change the way I parent my DD. Thank you Tracy for sharing your knowledge with the world.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: We Three on November 25, 2010, 03:06:06 am
It was long before I even became a Mom that I read SOTBW...and I thought "Everything in here is *right*."   It was so clear. I KNEW that someday I would be a BWing Mom. It is truly an honor to continue your work, even in any small way.

You know how grateful I feel to you, Tracy....I have whispered it to you a million times..when I had a quiet resting baby, when I had a toddler who *asked* to go to bed, when I figured out a routine based on her cues.  In the past 4 years, I have whispered a thousand thank yous.  And I will keep doing so, I'm sure of it.

My prayer I'm sure is the same as yours would have been...may every baby be whispered to.   :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Little toes on November 25, 2010, 03:07:14 am
Tracy, no words can thank you enough. So many lives were changed for the better because of you. You will never be forgotten.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: ~Sara~ on November 25, 2010, 03:26:40 am
Thank you, my dear friend.  Words are inadequate, but you are a huge part of the reason why my little boy is such a joy.  We will always miss you but hope we make you proud :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: ~Sarah~ on November 25, 2010, 05:09:18 am
Coming from a dark home where children were not respected nor listened to I had no role model for being a mother.  I so desperately knew what kind of mother I wanted to be but had no idea of how to get there.  Then by chance DH's client recommended SOBW and I knew this is what I needed to do.

I too have sat quietly with tears in my eyes praying for guidance,  and the guidance came through all of the ladies (and gentlemen) here on this community. 

I never would have thought I would have so much comfort from so many nameless faceless people...but they are all here to help make children's lives better and what better reason to come together.

I too want to thank you for putting your wisdom down on paper.  I fear for what my children's lives would have been like if I did not find these answers.  I am not sure that my 2 babes 12mo and 5days apart would be as happy as they are now if I did not have all of help from everyone here.

There are not enough Thank Yous to say...my life is eternally changed and there are going to be 2 better people in this world bc of what I learned here.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: *Liz* on November 25, 2010, 07:14:09 am
Remembering all of your caring work today.

Your first book SOTBW guided me through my first child, and now with my second I understand even more what you mean about respect and listening, and doing what will work for your unique baby within my unique family.

Both my children smile and laugh for different reasons - spirited Jacob and angel Megan - thankyou for helping me see the great in both of them  :-* :-*.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: anna* on November 25, 2010, 08:09:22 am
Rest well, Tracy, in the knowledge and comfort that your legacy has been so many hundreds of thousands of contented and attended to babies - and new parents who feel they have a compass by which to guide them. From myself and on behalf of all of those babies, thank you.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: EloysH on November 25, 2010, 08:23:02 am
To the lady who has touched so many lives.....
Your wisdom has allowed me to gain confidence as a mother and cherish my two little boys
May you rest in peace


 
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: *Becky* on November 25, 2010, 09:07:48 am
thank you for helping me to see that I did not need to let my baby CIO or bring him into bed with me to get him and us the rest we needed and as a result thank you for the amazing bond we now have. xx
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: LizzieN on November 25, 2010, 10:01:18 am
Tracy,
From the bottom of my heart I thank you for your wisdom, I thank you for the wonderful community of mums and dads who have absolutely changed my life.. I thank you for the smile on my sons face now that his reflux is controlled and I thank you for the days and nights when he can now sleep peacefully and pain free. 
You have profoundly influenced my life and the mother that I want to be.
Rest in peace.
xx
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: <Catherine> on November 25, 2010, 10:17:21 am
You will never be forgotten Tracy, thank you for the lessons you have taught us and I am so grateful that the wonderful team behind this website are continuing your work and helping so many other parents like myself.

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Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Deb_in_oz on November 25, 2010, 11:06:53 am
Tracy - thank you for putting al your wisdm into your books so we could all learn how to be the best parents we could be  and thank you for creating this place that has become such a safe haven, supportive, light filled environment where I know I can always come home to - even almost 6 years later... we have all been blessed
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Duckie on November 25, 2010, 11:36:23 am
I thank you again, Tracy, for everything you taught me about these beautiful boys of mine. Thank you for this website and these wonderful women who work everyday to continue your work.

I am so thankful that I had the chance to chat with you so many years ago.

Sleep well.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Fiver on November 25, 2010, 13:17:13 pm
Thank you, Tracy.  I still may not always get it right, but at least I have the confidence and framework to do it in!
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: babybarr on November 25, 2010, 15:05:32 pm
Thank you Tracy for writing SOTBW.  Without that book I would not be here today with a smiley happy toddler.  I am forever grateful for your wisdom.

Rest in peace.  I hope that we as a community can continue to pass on your methods to many many more families.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: sianie on November 25, 2010, 15:33:41 pm
As a Mum to 2 BW'ed children I'd like to say a big thank you to Tracy & also to the fab people on this site who have supported me through some tough times & helped me to understand how to listen to & respect my precious children  :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: aisling on November 25, 2010, 16:41:22 pm
Thank you Tracy as always. I sit here trying to type in peace thinking of you, only to be interrupted by my blessed DS. Somehow that seems right to me, and you wouldn't mind.  :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: jacsmummy on November 25, 2010, 16:48:09 pm
Thank You Tracey for all you have done for not only us but all of the many, many parents out there.....your spirit lives on in your books & on the pages within all of the help & kindness BW'rs show to eachother....  :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Lana on November 25, 2010, 16:52:50 pm
Thank you Tracy :-*
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: shivi on November 25, 2010, 17:02:09 pm
thank you Tracy for making me the Mammy I am today xxx
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: MommytoJashn on November 25, 2010, 17:08:27 pm
Thank you Tracy, u have made me the mother that I am.
I will be forever indebted to u for guiding me through the toughest challenge of understanding and respecting my little baby.
Can never thank u enough !
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: deb on November 25, 2010, 17:37:20 pm
Nearly 9 years ago, when my first baby was a few days old and I was shattered with lack of sleep, horrible pain from a bad latch progressing to mastitis, and severe post-partum depression, I stumbled across Tracy's book in the bookstore. That book gave me the start I needed to begin reading my baby, even though she turned out to be not-textbook in pretty much every way there was, at least behaviorally and neurologically and to a degree, medically.

At about two months of age, desperate for help with the naps, I turned to Google to try to find Tracy herself - which I eventually did - I stumbled on the BW forums. Now, 8-1/2 years later, with no babies left in the house or on the way, I'm still there! I've learned so much from Tracy and from the forums. It's been a place to get information about sleep. It's where I first heard of reflux in babies, and where I found the courage and strength to bully Josie's doctor into seeing her and finally treating her. It's where I've learned about different developmental stages, and about how Spirited can still encompass a wide range of behaviors and even personalities. I've gotten some good resources here for Josie's issues as well, and lots of food for thought to help me "keep it real." It's where I found information about learning, and nutrition, and safety, and preschools. It's where we can discuss DH's and AF's and nobody bats an eye. ;D It's been a safe place to discuss my depression and meds and supplements - or lack of them - without judgment. It's where I've come for a long time to get help and support even for things not strictly related to childrearing, where I know I'll always find a shoulder to cry on or a crew of people to happy-dance with me. Lots of BW's have come and gone, and maybe - MAYBE - someday I too will finally move on, but not any time soon if I can help it.  :-*

So thank you, Tracy, for your book, for your forum and community. I shudder to think of what my life would be like now had I not been guided to your book that otherwise awful depression-ridden day, and eventually here to the BW boards. I think it's safe to say that that moment saved our sanity.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: KathrynK on November 25, 2010, 17:54:16 pm
Thank you Tracy, for helping me learn to be the kind of parent I always wanted to be xx
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Kimberlina on November 25, 2010, 20:27:19 pm
I found you thanks to a Tesco newsletter when I was bursting-at-the-seams pregnant, and I thought "that sounds right to me."  I borrowed SAYP from the library when he was days old and you gave me a road map. I sought you out when my midwife quietly disapproved of not demand BFing and I was lost in darkness. That day, I found out that you had gone before us to live with our Father... and that day you gave me the greatest gift: these forums.

I have spent 5 days 20 hours and 27 wonderful minutes with the ladies here - laughing, crying, and supporting each other anytime of the day (in a way, I still miss my 4am BC club!). Without them, I promise you that I wouldn't have made it. And they were here because of you.

You have changed my life and my path in a way I never even considered. I shudder to think of what sort of life my son would have had if it wasn't for you.

When people tell me babies don't come with a manual, I tell them "yes, they do".

Thank you, Tracy, my lovely northern lass.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: lulunut on November 25, 2010, 20:37:52 pm
Without Tracy there would be no baby Whisperer book and no other option for me.  She has the only respectful and understanding way to handle all your issues with your babies.  Without her book I would have never found this website that has been so wonderful, caring, supportive and helpful throughout my sleepless nights.

Thank-you.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: *Ali* on November 25, 2010, 21:55:36 pm
Thank you Tracy.
No other person whom I have never met and who even passed on before I knew of them has had such a profound and positive influence on me and my family.
This site has been invaluable to me.
What a wonderful legacy you have left. God bless you and your family.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: embw on November 25, 2010, 22:11:00 pm
Thank you Tracy for all your gifts - you helped me become the best mum I could be and gave me courage and strength when I really needed it. Your legacy continues to make our children happy and contented beings!
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: squeakersmum on November 25, 2010, 22:21:05 pm
Tracy,

What to say?  What words can convey the strength of feeling I have for a woman I have never and will never meet in this life who reached out to me at a time when I was lost?  A woman who told me it was ok to want to be a different kind of parent to that which I had been brought up to be.  A woman who, with a simple 15 part television series turned on a lightbulb in my head.

I was in freefall when I read your books over Christmas when my son was 6 weeks old.  I had no idea what I was doing and felt like I was drowning.  You lifted me up, you gave me the tools to be the parent I wanted to be but didn't know how to be.  You threw me a lifeline and I, my son and my husband thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  

My darling son is a joy to be with and is a very happy, highly energetic, spirited little man.  He is happy because of you.  I am happy because of you.  He knows that I understand him and he trusts me to always be there if and when he needs me.

As I say, there are just no words to express my thanks.  

Tracy, you would be so pleased to see the fantastic community here carrying on your work with a new generation of babies and every day I give thanks to the women and men who make it possible.

XXX
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: marita1977 on May 06, 2011, 09:35:39 am
God bless her
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: *Kara* on May 25, 2011, 16:10:57 pm
Thank you for teaching me that a baby cries for a reason... sometimes that reason is for a snuggle and sometimes the reason is much less apparent.  Thank you for teaching me to recognize that I am a good mom and that I can do this... even on the days when I don't think I can.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: katyusha on June 06, 2011, 15:42:15 pm
Tracy, rest in peace. I love your books and they have helped and still are helping us a lot. They are very sensible and taught me to respect my kids and to work with them. But equally they helped me to take better care of myself.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: angnzandy on June 29, 2011, 21:26:01 pm
Your wisdom helped me through learning to cope when parenting was all new and I was feeling completely out of my depth and now you are helping me with baby number three when even experience could not solve my problems.   The world is definately  a worse place without you in it but I will be forever greatful for your common sense advice and practical suggestions which have helped my family and many many others.   God Bless.  Rest in peace.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: yichen on August 24, 2011, 10:08:42 am
God Bless you Tracy. Thanks a lot.
Title: Re: Sixth Anniversary of Tracy's Passing
Post by: Truly Blessed on September 09, 2011, 19:31:41 pm
Words cannot express what an impact you have had on my life and most importantly my precious Son's life. Motherhood is hard and harder than most parent's expect it to be. Your dedication and teaching's have enabled me to enjoy it to the maximum and rest assured that I am being the best parent I can be. When I was at my lowest and my son was waking 6 times a night and I couldn't function due to exhaustion you reached out to me as did all the wonderful people carrying on your wonderful work on this website. I sit writing this knowing (please don't let me jinx it  :-X) that our 19 month old boy will sleep 12 hours through tonight and wake up a happy happy boy.

God bless you Tracey and your beautiful precious soul.x.