SLEEP => Night Wakings => Topic started by: magnoliamomma615 on December 14, 2018, 21:17:15 pm

Title: Waking before dreamfeed
Post by: magnoliamomma615 on December 14, 2018, 21:17:15 pm
Need some baby sleep advice. Our 4 month old boy is a mystery. We have him on EASY. He eats every 3.5-4 hours now, awake time is about 90 minutes and naps have pushed past the 45 minute mark most times and are usually around 1.5 hours. During the day, he is content, sweet and predictable. But our nights are rough. He goes down between 6 and 7, as close to 12 hours after his wake up time as possible. I was doing the dream feed but it wasnt really pushing his next night time feeding any later. Hed still wake around 1 and 4, sometimes even more frequently, so I stopped. Especially after he started waking up for it, expecting it and out of habit. If it wasnt pushing him later, why bother right?  This was about a month ago and hes still waking on his own between 10 and 11, as well as around 1 and 4, then up for the day by 6 most days. Hes our third, so after looking after our other two (3 and 5), were exhausted. He still sleeps swaddled and naps in the swing, so I know we have to make the transitions to pack and play/crib all the time and unswaddling. May still have startle reflex and is still working on finding his thumb. Then the sleep training - either PUPD or CIO Ferber Method. The thing we want to eliminate right now is the dreamfeed waking. Any advice?
Title: Re: Waking before dreamfeed
Post by: Katet on December 14, 2018, 21:35:56 pm
Have you tried cluster feeding in the evening? At 3/4mo there is a big growth spurt & depending on if he is BF or FF, how the feeding impacts can impact the night feeds. That said in a BF baby it is within the normal range  for there still to be 2-4 night feeds at 4mo.

What are his day feeding times & is he BF or FF?

Secondly CIO is not condoned on BW as it breaks the trust with babies & there is A LOT of evidence that it can cause a lot of unnecessary stress in babies, that can have lasting effects on emotional health.
Title: Re: Waking before dreamfeed
Post by: creations on December 19, 2018, 19:12:29 pm
If you haven't read the research on CIO here's a link