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Title: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 20, 2019, 23:15:59 pm
My almost 3.5 year old good sleeper is suddenly waking up during the night. Itís usually at the same time every night at 1:30 am. Either he asks my husband to come back to his room to stay with him or we find him asleep on our floor. Any tips on how to get him back on track ?
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on November 23, 2019, 02:05:22 am
This sort of thing often happens along with developmental leaps: new skills, new vocabulary, growing new teeth, growth spurts, things like that.

Around 3YO, both my kids started sleeping on their floors and not their beds, for months on end. One kid went back to bed when it got cold and she wanted more blankets, the other actually laid out a sleeping bag and slept on her floor for upwards of a year...and then she stopped. Both girls took turns sleeping on our floors partway thru the night so we laid out sleeping bags for them too. As long as they're sleeping and we're not having to wake for them, we were OK with it.

Your mileage may vary.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 23, 2019, 18:41:02 pm
But he also is waking crying around 1 am then after I get him
Back to sleep heíll come in our room not sure what time and falls asleep on the floor. Not a big deal
But now heís falling asleep and in need of a nap around lunch time and he hasnít napped in months. Trying to get out of this cycle and back on track of later morning wake up and going to bed easy and staying sleep. Becuase heís waking earlier too and obviously not getting a good rest.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Katet on November 24, 2019, 01:20:18 am
Around 3yo was when both mine struggled with being alone at night and night fears. With DS2 it was easily solved by him.sharing with his brother, but DS1 we just kind of limped through, he was still very much on one nap so he got that sleep catch up and he was an early riser, so not sure what advice except things like make sure he gets plenty of physical activity, fresh air and a good wind down at night and not negative environment when he does wake up as it will reinforce any fear he might have.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 26, 2019, 20:29:10 pm
The problem is that when he wakes and comes in our room to sleep on the floor heís woken up by my husband at 4:45 am which is when he wakes for work and Iím not sure he ever really falls back to sleep which leaves him exhausted the next day and super crabby.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on November 26, 2019, 23:15:12 pm
Can he come to sleep in bed after your husband gets up? That was the only time I let mine sleep w/me, when hubby wasn't there (gone to work or out of town). Even now my "baby" (14YO) will sleep in his empty spot. <3 We got in some lovely cuddles that way too, and they did eventually learn to get back to sleep/sleep thru it (my hubby has a 5:30AM alarm set and has for many years).
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 26, 2019, 23:28:58 pm
I donít mind him coming in but he insists on sleeping on the floor not sure why and he canít get back to
Sleep after the alarm wakes him up. Poor kid is suffering exhausted after
Preschool. He needs a nap but I donít want him to get back into a nap
Habit yk.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on November 26, 2019, 23:34:16 pm
I don't know where you're located but if it's in the States you'll (maybe?) have a long holiday weekend coming up where you can all sleep in and maybe break the cycle?

If not, and I suggest this as a temporary measure only, would your hubby consent to spend a limited number of nights sleeping elsewhere (so no 4:45AM alarm) to help break the cycle? Alternatively, there have been nights where I slept on my kids' floors and when they woke in the night they'd stay in there and snuggle with me on the floor. I didn't sleep any worse than I had been the other way, and at least THEY got some sleep and weren't miserable cusses the next day.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 27, 2019, 03:52:33 am
Ha! True! The shower is upstairs next to the bedrooms so thatís bound to wake him up anyway yk. I just wish I could figure out why heís waking crying out a few times a night for a few weeks now. Everyone is so exhausted and cranky around here lol.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on November 27, 2019, 18:30:32 pm
Just a thought, have you tried pain meds before bed? If they seem to help, you're on to something.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on November 27, 2019, 19:08:32 pm
But what would be hurting him? Itís been a few weeks.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Katet on November 27, 2019, 19:45:38 pm
He could have fluid built up in his ears,my DS1 did. No ear infection, just glue ear causing uncomfortable feeling. GP didn't recognise it, it was only a couple of years later with us noticing he wasn't hearing very well that we discovered he had glue ear. His sleep improved after grommets to drain the fluid... Never in 5 years had an ear infection, but on off had horrible sleep.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on November 28, 2019, 01:53:44 am
Apropos of nothing, really, but I'll be away for a few days...no panicking if you hear nothing from me for a while.

Worth considering ears. Ears are tricky. Ditto teeth.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on December 01, 2019, 03:14:07 am
The big issue now is that he hasnít been waking up crying but just coming into our room and sleeping on our floor the problem with that is my husband wakes up at 445 for work and so does he! And heís not really falling back to sleep so heís exhausted and cranky and falling asleep in the car. I donít know what to do.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on December 03, 2019, 00:23:53 am
If he's in enough pain to wake him at all, pain meds might still help him sleep thru.

Have you tried sleeping on his floor? Might help YOU sleep too!
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on December 06, 2019, 03:16:57 am
He didnít wake up last night! Now if we can just get him to sleep a bit later in the am. He wakes the same exact time every morning and only gets about 10 hours of sleep no naps and is active all day long doesnít stop at all. I still think heís overtired.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on December 06, 2019, 20:07:01 pm
I agree. Might also be a matter of being overstimulated? Is he a Touchy? My firstborn was VERY Touchy, a totally quiet first A time helped re-set, among all the other things.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on December 06, 2019, 20:31:18 pm
I would say heís a bit spirited and a bit grumpy. He always would sleep a good 12 hours at night would go to bed easily we didnít have to stay with him heíll wake in the morning well rested around seven 730 but that all changed once the clocks went back over a month ago. I still canít figure out why heís waking super early but following this form for all these years I feel like heís probably overtired from not getting enough sleep. He goes to preschool four days a week for four hours each day and in the afternoon we struggle heís wired and hyper and fresh.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on December 07, 2019, 18:15:10 pm
One other thing that occurred to me: when you try to get him sleeping during the day, have you tried music or white noise? We found white noise REALLY helpful! (Actually it was a noise generator where we could select ocean, river/stream, or rain sounds; helped get her from one sleep cycle to the next.)

Might be worth a try, that and as much physical activity as you can manage for him when he's awake. Swimming ALWAYS meant better sleep for my two.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on December 08, 2019, 13:00:40 pm
Heís doesnít have a day sleep. And yes at night we use a white noise machine. How do you get them to sleep later or reset them. Itís getting earlier today was 545 and I can not get him to go back to his room or bed.
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: Chloevalentine on December 09, 2019, 16:32:15 pm
Now we are waking at 5 am! Help! This is awful. And I keep trying to bring him back to bed and resettle him but he starts screaming and crying and wonít stay in his room then he wakes his big brother up. Any tips ?
Title: Re: Why is my 3 year old waking up at same time Every night
Post by: deb on December 13, 2019, 03:47:05 am
Sorry, things have been hectic here so I've been AWOL...

Is there any way you can hold him back to sleep in his room when he wakes early? Like sit on a chair in the dark and just...sing a lullaby? Play soft music?

Have you tried pain meds? If so, any difference?

On the other hand, if he's waking that early anyway, maybe just let him sleep with you after hubby gets up for work? I'd try giving some pain meds when he wakes and snuggling, see what happens.