DH is staying up late right now to get in on some action. He sometimes passes up 2nd base and goes straight to third. I am trying to let him know that i am no longer a slut but a virgin.LOL Macaire. Also...that was a dh rant...mine are like three pages long! Feel free to really let it out sometime:) :wink:
I don't see that as rewarding him for having the tantrum, but rather he is allowed to feel his emotions in a safe environment and know that I'm there to help him. When he's calm we might talk about what happened.
I remember actually asking the dr. how much knocking her head could take and he said "a fair bit but you don't want to promote it" OBVIOUSLY.:roll:
I don't see that as rewarding him for having the tantrum, but rather he is allowed to feel his emotions in a safe environment and know that I'm there to help him. When he's calm we might talk about what happened.Brilliant Nikki-love this approach. I am learning so much from you girls. And DH and I say good boy too often. Must remove it from our vocab.
Anyway, my instincts say, from reading your posts that maybe Cole should get cut off of the booby after he goes to bed. I know that it is so hard, when that boob is right there and you are sooo tired but maybe try it and he will pack more in in the daytime.I agree and since I'm bracing myself for a few days of pupd anyway I might as well go full on!
Also, have you tried the counting to 100 idea of Andrea'sI have tried this a couple of times and find myself counting very fast :wink: I think because I have been rescuing him on a regular basis he just cries LOUD as he knows I"ll come a running.
I know you said Cole will pull up to standing in hos crib, is this still happening? What is he like when he wakes at night scared? whingy? hurt?yep, still doing it. Not sure WHY he's waking. I have theorized that he's standing before he's awake and it freaks him out when he wakes up. He doesn't whine...all out cries for help. As said above, I have perpetuated this by rescuing him over and over again. So, bracing myself for a very long weekend. DH better put the ear plugs in...then I get to sleep in the daytime!
I told this to my ped. and she said that you have to give them right before they eat in order for them to be fully effective.rats, i give it after...will definitely give it before from now on.
Have you gone to your pedno. don't like my ped and in fact am supposed to be switching to Holly's. She told a fib and said I'm a good friend of the family to get me in. :D Last time I was there she checked his ears and they were fine so.......................I am considering chiropractic though...maybe next week if the weekend is unsuccessful.
Just know that even in your vents your are so sweet and it is so obvious that Cole has such a wonderful and patient mommy, no wonder he wants to hang out with you all night!!awwww, thanks richelle. i needed that :P
DH was super mad and started yelling at the cat (who was no where near the tree when it fell).amongst all that chaos I had to laugh at that line. the poor cat! Anyway-that must have been quite a scare! especially with the water/electricity combo. good to hear he's okay and had an okay sleep after that.
Carter can't crawl or walk or even go from tummy to sitting but man can that boy use his sippy cup!!this made me LOL :D
LMAO Micky! What a sweetie, you're his MILF huh? :wink:
LOL that's what I was going to say!
Great chat today ladies! It was moving so fast, hard to keep up but sooo funny :lol: Anyone dropping in must have thought OMG these girls are talking about waxing their hoo hoo's ??? WTF !!
Cathy - I figured out in the chat that your tree must have fallen on Carter but I had no idea it was a REAL tree :shock: Holy Crap and that electricity would have FREAKED me out big time !! :shock: :shock:
Traci - I usually help Halle tip the sippy cup up but she has just started to do it herself. She gets heaps of air too, I will have to fill it up more.
Nikki - Cute photo of D, her her is pretty long ! I am sure Halle would pull hers out if I tried that. If I put a hat on her now she just pulls it straight off!! I will have to figure something out before we go away next week as we will be outside a fair bit.
Teething - to be honest, Halle is such a challenge most days, I have not noticed any difference with teething :? She has 5 teeth now and the 6th is almost through.
It was sooo hot here today ladies - 41oC which according to my recently download converter is 105.8oF - Bloody Hot in other words. This arvo we got out in Halle's new wading pool she got for Christmas and squirted each other with the hose. It was so funny seeing Halle try to grab the water !! It is suppose to be hotter tomorrow :roll: It sucks because you can't do much outside and I go a bit nutty inside all day.
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suggested holding the child until they came to understand the point of not touching mom's computer. This seemed a bit controlling to me - to hold them against their will
Judy, what are your thoughts on Grandma's Rule?
Judy, is is scary to think the girls are wanting to be on the computer already?
I still think I'm afraid of my lips being ripped off!
Judy where do you find the time to give all the advice to us? I barely get to read through most the stuff little own reply!
one mentioned not offering too many choices if they don't like what you offer not to give them anything. I felt that was a bit 'tough' and he would then be hungry and upset. I'd rather him eat something than nothing
Is anyone's lo's getting really clingy/whiney(whingy)?
Traci, I'm just curious, when you say Cole is awake for an hour or so in the night what are you doing with him? Is this lights on time, or are you just trying to get him to go to sleep? I couldn't imagine being awake for that long in the night now, so hats of to you lady for staying awake during the day.
Maybe now with the tooth something might improve??? Crossing fingers for you Traci. Is that Cole's first tooth?
Traci, yay for Cole's sleep. FYI Daniel is awake 3 hours from when he first wakes for the day to first nap. Then 3.5h for the next awake time. Mostly now he sleeps 1.5h each nap. This makes his naps a lot later, 9.30am for first and he doesn't go down until 2.30pm for his 2nd nap. Waking around 4pm. He goes to sleep for the night at 7pm
The long wake time at your mom's - Taylor may not handle such long wake time at home day after day because it is draining... but some children can handle it once in a while, especially somewhere different that is interesting enough to keep their attention and keep them from noticing how tired they are... and then with all the irregular stimulation she passed out and had a great nap. I don't think that seems odd at all.
I feel awful at how mad I was at them and how I just didn't even want to look at them.Jody-OMG that was me the other day! I got so mad I just couldn't even deal with myself. I felt so sad afterwards for being upset with her. I hope you knwo that you are in NO WAY alone in feeling like this. I think we are all going through a rough time right now and I for one am thankful I have others to share my feelings with.
Tracy said the biggest thing for babies 7-9 months is that the routine is basically a guessing game. Each day is different and it's important to just go with the flow at that point.Nancy-thanks for pointing this out because I did not remember this at all. I will go back and read through this section and hopefully get a pick me up! :)
(I swear, this is like Junior High all over again when all the girls get their periods at the same time! )That is hilarious Kate!
what kind of mother rants at an 8month old?"*raising my hand* :oops: - Yup, done that before, and wished I could lock myself in the bathroom as well (that's for you Micky) - though my personal favorite is when she doesn't sleep and is later cranky - telling her "well if you had only slept earlier you would be happier now - like that really works...
Tracy said the biggest thing for babies 7-9 months is that the routine is basically a guessing game. Each day is different and it's important to just go with the flow at that point.OMG-I must have missed this post by nancy...what page, please tell me what page. I also need a pick me up!
Nancy-thanks for pointing this out because I did not remember this at all. I will go back and read through this section and hopefully get a pick me up!
Arwyn is suffering from Short Nap Syndrome and Multiple Night Waking DisorderAnkie-even exhausted you manage to maintain your sense of humour. I suppose you need to to get through your days.
Traci... Girlfriend, you and I have to just escape and sleep for a night or two. If you feel comfortable with it, just continue to feed Cole once in the night. My doctor says that some babies just need to be fed and can't make it through the night until over 1 year. I know it is not very BW advice but you, my friend, have been at it for a long time and Cole doesn't seem to be able to go without a feed. He sounds super active and maybe his body just needs more. BTW, do you know if he is waking due to moving around? I find that if I "pseudo-swaddle" Arwyn, she falls asleep faster. I hold her over my shoulder, put the blanket on her and tuck the two ends between her and I so that her arms can't move. DH is able to restrain both arms just while holding her but my limbs are not long enoughHe is in a grobag. I think my issue is purely A time and has been for a long long while now. I just thought it was the frigging teeth. I think you're right...if he will go to 4:00-4:30, then feed, then up for day around 6 I would be a VERY happy girl.
Sean and I cannot even sit at the table without them litterally climbing all over your legs...I can't give them enough of what we have! Please tell me that this stops??
Ankie-even exhausted you manage to maintain your sense of humour. I suppose you need to to get through your days.
Judy-with your short/no windown for the girls...what are they doing before that. Are you sure to keep everything quiet?
... anyway she gets really loud when we go out as well - I am not really worried (I don't think anyway) but Sophie was, um, singing, in the grocery store this morning, a lady said, boy has she got some lungs! Are you all quiet at home? DH and I have a tendency towards loud and rambunctious behavior, maybe we should turn it down a bit?
I only have a few minutes as we have a static baby todayLOL-love this description.
I can't even keep things quiet WHILE they sleepDUH-of course not, what was i thinking.
Sounds like everybody needs one... the back to work moms, moms of screaming or ear-pulling twins, routine-breaking babes, non-eating munchkins, and non-sleeping through the night bubs. Anybody not have one of these, just sit back and drink your coffee.
Everything Ankie said!!!
Sounds like everybody needs one... the back to work moms, moms of screaming or ear-pulling twins, routine-breaking babes, non-eating munchkins, and non-sleeping through the night bubs. Anybody not have one of these, just sit back and drink your coffee.Quote (selected)
Everything Ankie said!!!!
Ok so I pick up Zoe's which is on the table and give a bite to Sarah - fair enough right?
Well Zoe get's mad and SPITS OUT the bite she took onto the carpet
I told her she needed to clean up every last bit before I gave her the remaining part of her bar. She's lying on the floor claiming to be too hungry to clean it up.
Are you all quiet at home?NOT A CHANCE!! Katie babbles incessantly - and I'm not even exaggerating. From the moment she wakes up until the moment she goes to sleep (except when she's napping or has food in her mouth) - blah, blah, blah - I find it really amusing (though by 6 PM or so, I do sometimes wish that she would be just a bit quieter). I remember people telling me I talked to much when I was little and I therefore became sort of a quiet person so NO ONE is going to tell my child she talks too much. We often have lengthy conversations in the mall, grocery store, wherever, and I quite frankly don't care who hears us. Bathtime is a rockin' good time here too, except Katie keeps trying to stand up in the bathtub :roll:
To me that was done as a pay-back (and too right :wink: ) which to me also translates to punishment for Zoe for snatching.
Judy, do you find it difficult to read the Discipline forum lately now that you follow UP? I just find unless someone understands and wants to come from a UP POV, it would be hard to give advise.
Anyway I get annoyed at saying things and being 'ignored' - it really bugs me.
Interesting eh? I wanted to blame her for the whole BIGness of the incident and yet it was MY reaction that set the tone. So often that's it isn't it? *sigh* another lesson learned for next time - and there's always a next time for trying again isn't there?
Traci I think it makes great sense to forget the clock and stick with the 9.30 and 2.30 naps. Afterall watching his A time isn't helping so at least - good naps or not - you'll know when nap time is and you can plan your day around that as much as you want.thanks Judy. I was just out running around and he started yawning and rubbing his eyes after 2.5 hours! I was really hoping he wasn't going to fall asleep in the car. Seems he's got a second wind going though as he's having a ball in his exersaucer now.
traci: when we were trying to phase out feeding at night i took Jack settling at all as a sign that he wasn't really hungry. When he was truly hungry he would NOT settle even for 2 seconds. Maybe??? who knows though with these little ones.thanks Micky-see, I interpret it that he can settle when I'm there, regardless if he's hungry, in pain or whatever but when i'm gone it's like he remembers the hunger/pain kwim? hmmmm.
Caregivers vary in the demands that they place on children. Some adults establish high standards for responsible behavior, and they expect children to live up to those standards. Other adults, however, place few demands on children and seldom try to control children's behavior.
Woke up 3 times during the night but I refused to get up for 2 of them.Roz...does he settle fairly quickly if you don't get up? Also, I think it was you a couple of weeks back he wouldn't let you leave the room, and you stood further and further away until you were out the door. What do you do? Reassure him with your voice?
Parents have to try and keep there emotions out of it. You muyst remain confident and consistenti was able to do this at 4 months...but somehow now it seems harder. maybe it's the odd mamaaaaaaaaaa that he says or just that his cries are so much louder now. :oops: oh ya, and about the reassuring hand...that's where all this started...because he reaches out and holds my hand and i think it's become a prop. i try to just touch his legs once he's nearly settled himself but last night i gave in again. and i've been letting him hold my hand for naps. i'm okay with that as long as he gets his nights sorted out (apparently they use a different part of brain for naps and nights so it's okay to use different soothing methods-per weissbluth)
His first reaction is to become defensive and personalize my reaction. And if he happened to be the one doing laundry he immedietly trys to deflect blame.This is how I react. I wonder what style my parents used. I don't remember being punished. In fact if anything they were too loose with their discipline. hmmm. something to think about. haven't read the link. hoping to get to it tonight.
OH-Judy-about the homo. going to call my ped. that seems silly. Obviously then people would want to do homo with iron/cereal supplement...so much cheaper than formula and tasted WAY better. hmmm, makes me wonder. thanks for the input though. the girls starting homo soon then?
Nikki how do you not put yourself in the position to be ignored? Try not to say much in the first place?
I smack his little ar$e!!! :P JK!
MIcky please tell me you didn't put the cheese in that toaster OMG my electricity phobia - you are giving me a heart attackAnd Bec-you are so darn funny! waht is it with this electricity phobia you have????
Moral of the story: Let your kids eat garbage and they'll sleep. No, the real lesson for me is boredom cues can seem like sleepy cues, so make sure it's not the first.LOL-totally agree-cole was yawning/rubbing eyes after 2.5 hours of A time this afternoon...if i were home i might have put him down by mistake! gosh-makes me wonder how long cole has been ready to go longer??
oh looooook, your gina has dirt on it. Gotta wash it off!!" (stuble) So I agreed and then crouched down for the rest of our conversationsThis MUST be the quote of the year! ROFLMAO! :lol: :lol: :lol:
Is there a 9 month growth spurt that I didn't know about?? He did grow out of his clothes really quickly? I must be dumb not to have realized he was having a growth spurti apologize if this has been covered...but i'm quoting as i read...much faster than to take notes. yes cathy-there is a 9 month growth spurt! lucky you on such a GREAT sleeper. I thought Cole had big feet! he is nearly out of his 6-12 month Robeez. Pants he is still in 3-6 months...shirts some 6-9, some 6-12 depending on the make.
What size clothes is everyone's lo wearing these days? Carter is mostly in 12 mos stuff (the length fits but the waists are too big). For shoes though he is in size 5 or 12-18 months for Robeez. This kid has his dad's huge feet!!!
Like before Molly I NEEDED at least 8 hours sleep or I would not be able to function at all...now if I get 6 hours I am ready to do cartwheels down the street!!totally agreeing on the sleep front. i could barely sleep last night and I had the chance too! more on that later...
before I know it I woke at 5am with an earthquake which fortunately didn't wake either of them (although Nathan had been up screaming about 3 times during the night still ).eeek! nikki-hope you guys are okay. poor nathan. do they eventually grow out of night terrors??
Good readers - read 20 minutes a day - 1.8 million words a yearErin-very cool info...thanks!
Average readers - read 4.6 minutes a day - 282,000 words a year
Poor readers - read less than 1 minute a day - 8,000 words a year
Traci did you mention that you are using a router? Does your connection come back right away if you cycle it? (turn it off then back on?)yes I do have a wireless router. I will try plugging/unplugging it. Interesting about yours working for only a few months. I'm with sympatico but they won't trouble shoot if we don't use THEIR router. hmmmm. got on okay today. not sure why. thanks for the thought though.
Traci, how did you type and quote and read as you went???hee hee, using my new found skill here. Hayley. I open two windows...one to reply and one to read. While i read a post I'll copy the text I want to quote, come over and quote it, then go back to the other window. kwim?
He is totally trying to seduce the camera!!!cathy-that last shot is PRICELESS. is that his "blue steel" look LOL (zoolander reference)
Then I said bye daddy, daddy's just gone to work and he smiled and started waving. Soooo cute! Now he's gone to the kitchen door where he last saw DH walk thru and is sitting waving.Hayley-that is just incredible! I cannot wait til cole does stuff like that. I guess he's so focussed on the physical he has no time more mental gymnastics:) Not to mention...I don't really work on hi and bye and stuff that much. He does a mean "high five" though :wink:
Ladies, I feel like swearing!
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Now he's gone to the kitchen door where he last saw DH walk thru and is sitting wavingtoo cute hayley!!Quote (selected)
She is trying to bite my cheek, shoulder, chin, fingers, etc. She actually connected and chomped my chin (ouch!) and managed to nip my shoulder too.Ankie, Jack did this to me today too! I think I got bit about 4-5 times. Pretty hard too! once on the shoulder and 3 times on my cheeks! :shock: I can't imagine if he was nipping me if I was still BFing!!! :shock: :shock: YOUCH!!!!
I give my standby chamomilla - great for teething and sep anxiety it seems.Judy, where do you find this magic potion??? :)
I was reading in Annabel Karmel's book that they don't recommend homo milk before age 1 because it doesn't have enough iron in it. But you can give it to them in cereal, cooking, etc., just not as the main source of milk.Micky-I give Cole iron supplement since i'm still breastfeeding. And he gets cereal with 2 of 3 meals...that is iron fortified. I wonder then, why couldn't I just do HOMO milk and supplement still? I thought the 1 year recommendation had to do with allergies as opposed to iron. that would make sense to me. I'm really leaning towards starting him...but will talk to my ped this week. I mean, it only has to be one milk feed...just so i can get out of the house and I can start to wean him, in case it takes a while.
Hi Micky
We posted at the same time....and Traci too!
What are we all doing up now?...oh wait Micky, you're in a different time zone - but Traci - go to bed! I'm going too!
To respect and meet their needs is the best way to assure happy and cooperative children. Play and experimentation are the "job descriptions" of a toddler, and he needs our vote of confidence in him. Making a sculpture out of mashed potatoes harms no one, is low-cost, and cleanable. Running away from us at bedtime is an invitation for play, and taking apart an old phone is a learning adventure. Most no’s can turn into yes’s easily: "Yes, you like to cut books, here is a magazine you can cut."; "I see you are making a lake out of your juice. Here, let me move your project to the sink."; "Yes, you love to paint on the wall, here is a big sheet of paper." and "Yes, you can play with the phone." (I unplugged it).
by myself. My commitment to order, self-discipline, and responsibility is being modeled with, or without, my children’s participation. Watching me clean up the food that spilled on the floor, or voluntarily helping me with this task (at his request), are much better teaching tools for Oliver than being coerced to do it by himself before he is truly ready for that stage. Similarly, my gentle tone of voice, and my generosity and kindness in responding to his needs teach him what a million words would fail to convey.
When a young mother consulted me on how to stop her 2-year-old son from throwing his spoon and fork on the floor after each meal, I asked her how she was feeling about his behavior. She said she had been grinding her teeth with anger and frustration while trying to prevent him from developing bad table manners. But as she listened to her own inner conversation, she was able to separate her emotional reactions from the real needs of her child. She remembered the pain of feeling "used" as though she was the "slave" in her family. She recalled having to do chores she hated to do, and being scolded and shamed when she didn't do them well enough. She also remembered the pain inflicted on her if she acted with childlike freedom, and the inner fear that prevented her from being fully curious and vivacious as she grew up.
As she realized that her negative reaction to her son’s behavior was based on her own past hurts, she could see what was really going on for him: he wasn't exhibiting "bad table manners"; he was a young scientist, experimenting with gravity. When she was able to see things from her son’s point of view, she could then marvel at and enjoy his experiments as well as his other creative ideas. She could then play with him: she picked up the silverware, handed it back, and he dropped it again and again. They could both laugh at this, because she was going with, and not against, his need.
Not surprisingly, the "throwing spoon and fork on the floor" game disappeared by itself as her little boy became interested in other things and activities. His general behavior improved, and his mother’s ability to enjoy him grew by leaps and bounds. She learned to see her son as an individual with his own perspective and his own motives. Every stage in a child's life is there for a purpose. If we can respect and respond to their needs fully during each stage of life, they can be done with that stage and move on.
What do we expect a child to learn when we tell him: "Say thank you to your friend"? Most parents believe that the child will learn to be grateful, and to express her sense of gratitude. But do children learn these things by being told to do them? How did we feel as children when told to say "thank you"? When did we really develop a sincere sense of gratitude? Did saying "thank you" before we had the feeling to match the words make us grateful? Or did we develop a sense of gratitude later on in no regard to those instructions? Is it possible that some of us feel resentful when needing to thank someone, share, or apologize, because as children we hated doing these things?
Maybe we are dealing with our inability to trust. Is it possible that gratitude is not likely to be felt by a child or at least not in the way adults feel and express it? Could it be that when childhood needs are fully satisfied, gratitude will naturally develop? Perhaps we need to allow children to observe gratitude, generosity and kindness, rather then teach these behaviors to them.
We have had no such luck... still needs us to fall asleep... we don't mind that as much... takes us less than 10-15 minutes usually but it is the SLEEPING THROUGH that I want.
BTW...Judy, I had to chuckle a little as I was lurking on other threads and I noticed your post on the whole control issue in the discipline/social skills thread and I so appreciated what you said but I chuckled and thought...hmmm...she and I are a lot alike...hard to keep your mouth shutt huh?
Nikki it was such a breakthrough for me when you posted about homo milk and not really giving them tons of it to drink but just making sure they were getting the same nutrients etc...Anyhow. It was a good reminder that I can make some decisions for my child...I don't have to do everything exactly the way a book/person suggests. I know a thing or two about nutrition...so I can probably figure it out...probably Maybeyes, i meant to thank you nikki. cole has taken to yoghurt and cheese so far...so i'm thinking that as long as i give him milk in cereal etc if he doesn't take to it right away it won't be the end of the world. That is...if I want some time away then DH can make stuff with milk and he won't be any worse for wear.
We have had no such luck... still needs us to fall asleep... we don't mind that as much... takes us less than 10-15 minutes usually but it is the SLEEPING THROUGH that I want.Ankie-you need to read below with my report because cole SLEPT THROUGH last night and I don't think it's a coincidence that he did it after falling asleep independantly. shucks, just gave away my big news :D
Also... (I know, this is turning out to be a long vent) she is having great naps again... 2 naps of 1.5 each. Should I be trying to shorten them to get her to sleep more at night?sorry i can't help with your food issues ankie...but i would leave the naps for now. I don't think you can assume she's having too much sleep until she sleeps through. Cole had 2:50 of naps yesterday and slept through as an eg. (not trying to rub it in...just trying to help :wink: )
Traci, what's with the iron supplement for Cole?have given it since 4 months onwards on advice from ped. standard practice here in Cda if you're breastfeeding. Judy-are you not giving iron, D, and maybe now even Vit. C? I am thinking i need to move to a tri-vitamin supplement. haven't read the rest of your post nikki-will later. had to pop on to naps and DH needs the pc back.
Traci - random thought - is it possible you're giving Cole too much iron and that could be causing his morning rabbit poops?maybe, I had been lazy with the supplement for a while...but Hayley PMd me about lack of iron possibly causing restless legs in babies so i had reintrod it. let me stop for a couple of days now that he's sleeping and i'll see. thanks!
Like saying thank you, I know they don't really understand, but I can't imagine not having my children saying please and thank you, or apologising if they hurt someone. I know mostly it's just 'saying the words' rather than really meaning it, but I still think it's polite, considerate etc. Ok, so now I'm sounding really old school and you probably think I should be banished from talking to you all, but I guess that's just me.
Nikki, interesting reading. It's really good hearing what you and Judy have to say, I agree with most of what I read but I still struggle with a few things. Like saying thank you, I know they don't really understand, but I can't imagine not having my children saying please and thank you, or apologising if they hurt someone. I know mostly it's just 'saying the words' rather than really meaning it, but I still think it's polite, considerate etc. Ok, so now I'm sounding really old school and you probably think I should be banished from talking to you all, but I guess that's just me. I guess Daniel will just have a bit of the philosophy that you two are going by, plus some of the other ones too. Do you think that matters? Would it be confusing?? Oh no, and I thought sleep and eating with big issues....... the next step sounds really hard!
I guess Daniel will just have a bit of the philosophy that you two are going by, plus some of the other ones too. Do you think that matters? Would it be confusing??
The other thing is (and this has probably been covered, sorry) what about when your LO wants to explore and you want to let them, but EVERYTHING appealing to them is dangerous. Fraser is like a magnet to powerpoints, power cords, the toilet and toilet brush, cupboard doors where his fingers get jammed, pulling on pedestal fans and things that he'll pull over on himself, you get the picture. So I don't want to say NO NO constantly, but when I try to redirect he is just straight back to whatever it is that I've just moved him away from. Thoughts anyone?
We had some Clementines (yummy!) and I sort of peeled the outer skin thing (not meaning the outside peel of the whole thing...I'm not THAT dumb) and gave him the inside. Quite labor intensive. Are yours canned so that part might be softer? Hmmmm.i think canned ones don't have the inner membrane...is that the word you're looking for :wink: Believe it or not...this is how DH eats ALL of his oranges and clementines. Unless the clementines are super soft. He just finds them more enjoyable that way.
The other thing is (and this has probably been covered, sorry) what about when your LO wants to explore and you want to let them, but EVERYTHING appealing to them is dangerous. Fraser is like a magnet to powerpoints, power cords, the toilet and toilet brush, cupboard doors where his fingers get jammed, pulling on pedestal fans and things that he'll pull over on himself, you get the picture. So I don't want to say NO NO constantly, but when I try to redirect he is just straight back to whatever it is that I've just moved him away from. Thoughts anyone?Jo-totally hear you on this. i only let him explore freely in rooms where I've removed all the danger points...well-most of them anyway. I found that if I let him play with something while i supervise then he loses interest. for example, he'll pull out the kitchen vent cover. it is plastic. while it is not dangerous...the venting under it is sharp. since i've let him pull it out a couple of times and smack it around he's left it alone more and more. likely not an option with all things, but maybe with some of them?
Heck my dad will say "now what do you say"don't all people the age of our parents say that? heck, i used to say it to my nieces and nephews too. i think it certainly is expected in our society, but far too soon and i wouldn't want him saying it just to say it. as UP says...consider their age. I'm on chapter 7 :wink:
They DO bash fingers in cupboards and how awful but I can't protect them from everything - it's not life threatening so I consider it good learning and REAL learning. Does that seem mean? I'm not setting them up to bash fingersthis isn't mean at all. cole opened a drawer today. we've got the safety lock on but it still opens a couple of inches. i knew he would catch his fingers so I tried to show him gently how it would catch them...then closed it. he opened it then got his whole hand stuck in there. oh well...it was a real learning experience :wink:
I reread my last post and hope it didn't sound weird. By saying I feel like we're getting our lives back, I hope you didn't think I meant anything bad. It's not like I resent Liv or our decision to conceive or anything like that. But I think you all know what I mean about "life returning to some state of normalcy."nancy-don't be silly...totally knew what you meant. i can't wait to have a life again. get this kid off my boobs already!
So do you let your LO's stand in the bath? Grab at the taps?definitely no standing in the tub. i always say, please sit in the tub cole, or on your bum cole and put him down. we have one tap and he has to stand to grab at it pretty much soooooooooo, no. i have one of those inflatable protector thingies...why do they make them fun looking so that they want to stand and grab at it :?
I finally had to lock her in the bathroom while I was getting him to sleep (nap or bedtime) and hope that when I opened the bathroom door , that her scratching and racing to whatever object didn't wake him up....PHEW!!! I'm tired just re-living the past couple of days with her!
I counted to 75 (couldn't make it to 100) and reassured her from the door. Counted the rest of the way and went in to do PD
So... back in to do PD... finally, at the 50 minute mark, I gave in and started to pat her back so she would stay calm. She was asleep in 2 minutes flat.
Nikki and Judy; I don't mean to be contradictory here, but a thought came to mind. I understand the concept of this is their house too and if there is really no harm in jumping on the couch, then why not. But I am wondering about valuables. Yes, they are only material objects, but there are certain things in our house that me and DH worked very hard for and treasure and would like to keep nice, such as our living room furniture. The den furniture is up for grabs as even the pets get on that, but how do you teach that some couches are okay to jump on and some are not?
And about the finger catching thing. I can't help but think that Taylor is still too young to understand the concept of "if I do this I will get hurt becasue I have done it before" type of thing. YEs, eventually I think it is a good idea to learn these life lessons on their own, but when is it too young? Yesterday T accidentally slammed her fingers in the drawer and I just felt awful :oops: :cry: she cried so hard (I know how much it hurts when we do it to our grown up fingers, so can only imagine for a baby). Well today she was at it again, but I diverted because I just don't feel right intentionally letting her hurt herself again. I apologize if that particular topic was in reference to the older girsl (can't remember).
When he does wake up I must admit I don't do pu/pd at allCathy-PUPD is a last resort. if you can calm him with words or a pat then that's all you need to do!
I always planned on having one of those babies that I could just put in their crib, walk away and they would instantly go to sleep on their own (no ... I don't do drugs!! ). We are slowly working towards that.well, he may not fall asleep instantly but you will get there. Would you believe Cole could do this from 5.5-7.5 months. He would cry maybe 5-10 minutes but then would sleep. you'd never know it after the recent nightmares you've heard from me. that's because of my major AP during teething time :roll:
Traci, I feel bad now that you started giving Cole iron supplements based on the article I sent you. I had not realised they could make him consitipated. I'm sooooo sorry!!!!Hayley-no no no! I had previously given them to him but slacked when we started solids. It was something I had meant to be doing anyway. So no worries, k? no extra iron yesterday and they were hard, but all came out in one lump. sorry if TMI on the poops. as i've said before, i'm obsessed.
I already say please and thank you for SOphie even to myself. "thank you mama, that was a deliscious breakfast' - DH says I'm a nutter, I probably am and never considered that I was putting words in her mouth.richelle-i also say please and thank you etc during mealtimes as per BWSAYP...that way when it's time he'll know what he should be saying. LOL about hearing it out of her ears.
Sophie right now has the left audio plug in her mouth, I wonder if I turned on the TV do you think we would here it out of her ears !
At first, I thought I had got it as she was calm after PD #16. But, no such luck. I kept up the PD until she just stopped crying and pulled up, all happy after I put her down. Had to leave the room to make her cryCole did this too, would calm down and i'd think he was asleep and he'd start up the moment the door opened. the "all happy" indicates to me that she thinks it's playtime with you. An indication that I got from Cole as well that he was enjoying having me there (manipulative little bugger! LOL :wink: ) I've left the room too to make him cry. Work on PD for at least two more nights...staying in the room, reassuring with your voice and using the firm hand. the reason i had to limit the use of my hand was because cole would hold it and i felt that was a prop. he used to stroke my hands etc. okay, let me think of more stuff and i'll be back.
Grrrr, I'm am having such a hard time trying to get DH on board to change his techniques of badgering, telling off, pulling Nathan in line all the time.
I almost take the cake for bad cooking!
Post-baby I am a pretty consistent size 5 so most of my clothes are that. I do have the odd size 7's (for those feeling bloated days)
OK, here's question: How many of your LOs have "loveys" (blanket, stuffed animal, etc.)?Cole doesn't have one. I've placed a blanket in there (satin/soft fabric) a couple of times and he ends up waving it around like it's a surrender flag. LOL, it's quite funny.
Of course, it also helps that I am coherant during the day to enjoy him
LOL Traci!! I am so happy for you and Cole, jeez I can realx a bit now too, JK!LOL richelle, i was thinking the exact same thing.
I started giving Jackson a teddy at about 7 months during our winddownMicky-i looked at all of coles teddy's today and they all either have a rattle in them or that lentil-like type filling in the feet or body. Is jackson's just a soft teddy. I don't want cole becoming attached to something that could pull apart and spill in the night kwim? maybe i'll go out and get one. I like the idea of introducing it during windown. MatthewsMommy encouraged me to have my old swaddle over my shoulder during windown months ago and i did it for about a month but he never really took to it. maybe i'll try again.
He won't eat chunks of anything, cooked carrot, banana. nope. I even mashed carrot last night but it was still too chunky and he gagged and puked a bit.
I did talk to Amy about Oking food with me before she gives them to Sophie...I think she felt pretty bad, was kind of embarassed toohannah-what did i miss? what did amy give to sophie?
I think it's due to their Communist government. We really get a bug up our butts about that one.Kate, I laughed for about 5 minutes after reading this. Ain't it the truth? When Katie takes long morning naps these days, I find that getting her down for her afternoon nap is just about impossible - she always goes down late and doesn't nap for longer than 45 minutes just about ever. OMG I am SO sore from the stroller class.
Judy, what's cantelope? Sounds a bit like a 4 legged animal to me, oh that's an antelope! :lol:
Also you managed to stress me out with the 'starting a company' thing, I know that is what I am hoping for but having it actually said...YIKES I had better get my !@!@ in gear!
Something else took over my brain, I somehow managed to twist around and hang on to Sophie.That something is called the motherhood instinct, my dear. Way to protect your baby while sacrificing yourself. Just like Bambi's momma did! :wink: How scary for you, but I'm so proud of you, too, IYKWIM.
Oh yeah I was going to comment on the mothering instinct to protect our babies... dh fell of the stairs of our deck in the summer while holding Sarah (granted she's a toddler and pretty tough) and dropped her like a hot potatoe men!
Nikki wrote: DH did the same to Nathan a few months back when he was squirming in DH's arms being silly, accidentally kicked DH in the nads and he dropped him on his forehead!
Homeopathic Traumeel Cream worked wonders for me. Sorry TMI. You will have to post a pic of your new kitchenWhen I first read this, I thought you wanted her to post a pic of the hemmroids! :lol: You never know with this bunch!
I was thinking about the process Nathan went through learning to talk - starts with one or two words and it was purely by us just talking, not TELLING him to say xx
OK, at least that's the way it goes in MY head to the Spiderman theme song....
kq wrote:Kate: too funny!! I thought this also for a second!! Surely she doesn't want to see my hemmroids...but she is a doc and all??!! :lol: :shock:
Homeopathic Traumeel Cream worked wonders for me. Sorry TMI. You will have to post a pic of your new kitchen
When I first read this, I thought you wanted her to post a pic of the hemmroids! You never know with this bunch!
When I first read this, I thought you wanted her to post a pic of the hemmroids! You never know with this bunch!LOL, i thought that for a moment too.
You know, someone should start up a BW childcare centre. At least then I'd know where I wanted to send my baby!!
See...that's why we chose Carter for Sophie's arranged marriage. She doesn't want a guy who hangs out in his pj's all day
In regards to work, we have decided that I won't be going back to work - I would only want to go back for 2-3 days and after childcare fees, it just isn't worth it. I also couldn't be guaranteed to get back in time to collect James. So anyone wiht childcare problems, please feel free to drop them here.
Oh and Nikki, I was talking with a friend about putting teething rings in the freezer and she reminded of that movie Dumb & Dumber where the guy gets his tongue stuck on the icey pole! Since then I didn't put the teething ring in the freezer.
So does this mean when he starts pulling up in the cot it is likely he will be able to get down there too????hailstones...i think the trouble with cole is that it freaks him out to be standing in the crib. i think he stands before fully awake and then it scares him a bit.
I am soooo tempted to cut it but I am almost past the yucky stagebec-i don't think you ever posted a long hair pic for us to compare. if you're nearly there i say stick it out a bit longer while we decide your best course of action :wink: ooooh, just realized you're trying to post...maybe they're further along in the gabillion pages i need to read.
I lost my pony Sunny last year (I got him when I was 13yrs old)bec-i know it's long after the fact, but sorry for your loss :oops: that must have been so hard.
fart-arsing:lol: :lol: :lol:
I thought about it and I am starting to eliminate the patting at bedtime already... tried it tonight and it took us 25 minutes of PD with no patting and minimal singing. I guess I could work on two at a time and do the 11 pm W2S as well??? What do you guys think? Or should I stick to one thing at a time?those were the two i was going to suggest. sorry, running out of reading time...but WAY TO GO...great work Ankie!
I come to get her from the living room and there is blood running down her chin from her mouth WTF and she is chewing on something so I go into her mouth and pull out a PIECE OF GLASS! She wasn't cryin or didn't or doesn't seem bothered that she cut her mouth! Could you imagine if she had swallowed it, Lord love a duck.....deep breaths...Honestly I will be cleaning the house and corniers for the 3rd time since Friday, I thought my house was clean. Anyway, I am cleaning so I am sure I will be on here before long...OMG OMG OMG richelle. how is she? gosh oh gosh that must have been scary. i broke a bowl a few weeks ago and i was finding shards of glass FOREVER. i was on my hands and knees for an HOUR looking for them too. oh my-hope she's okay.
How about an older boy who runs around in the buff scratching his "testicles"?ROTFLMAO Nikki!
I did some avocado cubes dusted with arrowroot grated up (easier to grab)brilliant idea...maybe i'll try that!
Zoe tried it and said "this tastes horrible!" ThankYou DH for giving her THAT word!!cracking me up! Good luck at SILs Judy. I find it exhausting going out with ONE child!
Oh and cool about Taylor doing the turn taking thing. Now she is probably right into putting things into boxes rather than just taking out - and yes that means you can teach her to tidy up her toys! All as a game of course.
except for when one of the dogs backed up into him and bumped his head with their butt...he didn't enjoy that too much.