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SLEEP => Sleeping For Toddlers => Topic started by: nadiasilvina on June 01, 2006, 14:25:31 pm
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Sorry!!! i left writing these days because i was so so occupied with Dana. She is fine now, she is at the kindergarden, thanks god. She is taking antobiotics because her flu was so important, and the fever never dissapeard. And her cough wa so continuous that the ped had to give her a kind of medicine that opens her lungs.
But now, she has no fever and is getting better. I hope no other flu to come to her.
The nights??? last two nights she slept so much better than the others (when you could imagine that her cough make her vomit and so) but...NEVER TROUGH THE NIGHT.
She has the habit now that when she coughs she do it until having retchs...so...i think that´s a way to make us run to her...but now, when she does it, we let her...because she is manipulating us...she is fine so...she should sleep quiet.
Nothing is easy...i think that sleeping is still a pendient issue to us. The only thing i do is to cross my fingers waiting the day she finally sleep trough without our help. Wi/wo, pu/pd...we couldn´t find in them the solution.
Kisses and hugs
Nadia.
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i am sorry i am not familiar with your situation but how was she sleeping before all of this?
it sometimes does take a bit of time before lo's will actually go back to their 'old routines' as illness does take a toll on the body, and although she seems better is maybe not at 100% still.
is there anything you can give her for the coughing at night...i know when i have a cold i always cough more at night..maybe she has some drainage..have you tried propping her up to sleep??
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}} hope things sort themselves out soon.
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Nadia -
If she's still sick with a cough, you need to go to her at night when she wakes. If she's still sick with a cough, and is coughing to the point of retching, it doesn't sound to me like she's doing it to manipulate you. You know your child better than anyone else - but it sounds to me like she's still on the mend rather than 100% better.
Gradual withdrawal, toddler pd and walk out/walk in absolutely do work. They all take time to work but they DO work. The key is to be 100% consistent. I know you haven't been able to follow through with 100% consistency because Dana has been sick. When she's better - completely better - I would recommend that you choose a method and stick to it with 100% consistency for at least 2 weeks. I can almost guarantee (almost!) that you'll see results if your consistent.
Other than that, I don't know what to say. Perhaps someone else will have something to add, but that's my input.
Hope she gets completely better soon.
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I agree with Sarah. If she is still coughing then she needs you. After all she really isn't that old and needs to have the security of knowing that mom and dad willcome when she feels she needs them.
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I totally agree with Lana and Sarah... i think Dana's trouble right now it's her health more than her sleeping (of course, her sleeping is disturbed because of that). Also, as for advice, we can only focus on Tracy's techiques (PD, wi/wo, gradual withdrawal). When used consistantly, they have reported a 100% success rate.
Also, if you let her cough to the point of retching it also can be interpreted as a CIO approach, wich WE DO NOT encourage on this site. We strongly beleive that we have to be there for lo's when they need us. She's too young to understand manipulation through coughing. IF she coughs and wakes and retches is because she's umconfortable and she needs mommy to meet her needs.
On a positive view, i have found that is at the end of each illness when my ds coughs more at night. Maybe she's on the way to recover her health? then we can start sleep training her. I know it's hard to live with so little sleep but remember it's just a phase and she'll be healthy soon.
HUGS meantime and get well vibes going to Dana!
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My son often had bad coughs for 2-3 weeks after getting a cold, so I don't think your daughter is trying to manipulate you, I think she is still recovering. She needs you to comfort her when she's sick. THe cold air at night can make a cough worse, as can lying down, so she might not cough much during the day, but she does at night. I found it helpful to raise the head end of the cot by putting a folded up towel under the mattress, and a vapouriser with some essential oils helped us too.
Even after she is better she might need help learning how to sleep through the night again, there are a few techniques and lots of useful help on this site!
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Lan is correct with everything she said. My doc told me that after a respiratory illness with a cough, the cough can still be there for a month after the illness is over. I have seen that many times with the little ones I worked with. Hugs to you and lo!!
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Hi there
I completely agree with the other posters here. Your little one is far too young to be trying to manipulate you by coughing and if she is coughing so hard that she is retching then she really needs you to be there providing comfort and support. The cough will pass as she continues to recover from her illness and you will soon be having nights where she will sleep through so that you can catch up on your sleep.
Hugs to you and your LO - I hope she is soon fit and well!