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General Sleep Issues / 4 week old wonít sleep in crib
« Last post by SNSmith on December 31, 2019, 19:23:59 pm »
Hi there!
My DS is 4 weeks old. Daytime he does pretty well on EASY but nighttime is the question. During the day after a short A time he is easy to put to sleep in a little portable rocking bassinet, often with a warm blanket (I know I know) if Iím close by and can keep an eye out. I work once a day on drowsy but awake and shh pat for 20 mins but otherwise I do binky+rocking to sleep at this young age. Iím trying to sort out his nights though. DD (2 y/o) goes to bed by 8. Ive been putting DS to sleep after that around 8:30pm in the bassinet. Then when he wakes I take him downstairs to feed, diaper change and put in his crib for the night. Last night I shh patted for almost an hour! Finally DH rocked him to sleep and put in the crib but as he often does he woke within 10 mins. I fed again, ensured a full feeding, burping diaper change swaddle, binky and everything but he was just alert. Not crying but just not drowsy. By this point I rock for an hour or so (I may have dozed off in the chair) and he seemed asleep at 2:30am so I lay him in the crib. Wakes again within 5 mins. I am discouraged at this point and just bring him into bed for the rest of the night. I have really tried to get him to sleep in the crib this past month as that is best for us but its only worked once after I fed him to sleep and placed him there. Any tips or encouragement?
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Night Wakings / BT after 30 minute CN for 11.5 mo old?
« Last post by JennVanessa1083 on December 31, 2019, 12:36:18 pm »
Hello!!

I have an 11.5 mo old and we have been following this EASY with relative success. She only wakes for one NF at night but will sometimes wake up within an hour or 2 after BT (puts herself back to sleep) and at times in the early mornings (sometimes will put herself back to sleep sometimes with some help)

EASY:
WU 7:30 am
Nap: 11:15-12:45/1pm (3.75)
30 min Nap: 4/4:15 pm
BT 3.25 A (usually 7:30ish)

Is this enough? Last night she was up a lot and long NW so Iím wondering if she needs a slightly later bedtime?

I tried to search for the average EASY at 11.5 but nothing on 11.5-12 month olds.

Thank you!

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Sleeping For Toddlers / 14 month old EASY
« Last post by MiniNs on December 31, 2019, 06:15:19 am »
Hi all,

Hoping for some advice.

My 14 month old has always been a dream with naps and self settling and generally STTN unless ill. We then hit 13 months and a long spate of coughs/colds/sickness bugs and now his sleep has completely lost its way.

Our EASY at 12/13 months, that was working at the time, was:

WU 6:00/6:15 (I have to have it at this time due to work commitments so canít push it later)
S: 9:30-10:00 (I wake after 30mins - he used to have longer here but I found cutting it down then helped his night time sleep)
S: 13:00-14:30/15:00 (I wake at 15:00 if still sleeping, which was about 75% of them time)
BT: 18:30/19:00 (4hrs after last wake up)

It worked really well for quite a while but now Iím seeing EW at 5:15/30, afternoon nap is regularly only 1h15mins instead of 2hrs and even with sometimes and EBT of 18:15 he is waking up SEVERAL times a night - lots of crying for repeatedly and for long stretches - sometimes it can be 2hrs before he resettles.

I have a niggly feeling that itís the start of the 2:1 nap transition but, even having done this before with DS1, I donít really know where to start. All I know is that after 2 months of EW and night wakings, Iím totally broken. When he wakes he seems to just want to know Iím there - lies back down when I come in, generally ok in cot if he knows Iím there but eventually just get tired and fed up and cries regardless. Is it developmental or a phase of separation anxiety that I have to deal with or is it overtiredness and naps need changing?

Do I cut the morning nap? Iím not sure he could last much past 10:30am.
Do I extend the morning nap, cut the afternoon nap down, with the aim to push the morning nap back to lunchtime?
Help?!?!

*edit* today I tried to do his afternoon nap a bit later so we did 45mins am nap at 9:15 and then down for pm nap at 13:30...he woke after 45mins but I was able to resettle by putting my hand on his back. But he then woke again after 20mins.
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Night Wakings / Re: Six month old waking every hour
« Last post by Katet on December 31, 2019, 05:51:08 am »
I would have thought the same with the day, but it wasn't with either of mine
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Night Wakings / Re: Six month old waking every hour
« Last post by sophsk22 on December 30, 2019, 20:09:57 pm »
Thank you, that's helpful, I'll take him. I would have assumed something like that would also be apparent during the day. He's got a cold right now so after a few days of two hourly wakings we're back to not wanting to go off to sleep in the first place and then waking every hour.
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Night Wakings / Re: Six month old waking every hour
« Last post by Katet on December 27, 2019, 22:54:15 pm »
Have you had him checked medically, my DS2 woke every hour or so at one stage, he was happy as anything in the day, but wouldn't sleep at night. Turned out he had an ear infection.
My DS1 also showed almost no signs he had glue ear, he was a bad sleeper and it was a combination of enlarged adenoids and glue ear that lead to poor sleep... essentially a form of sleep apenoa. I don't want to denigrate Drs but many just fob off with a try controlled crying, when often there is an underlying problem they aren't specialised enough to see. Took an ENT to find my DS1s problem...two GPs said his ears were clear, ENT said they were full of clear fluid, but as they weren't red and bulging the GPs didn't pick it up...ENT told me it wasn't uncommon to be missed
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Night Wakings / Six month old waking every hour
« Last post by sophsk22 on December 23, 2019, 21:17:29 pm »
Please help! My six month old hasn't been a great sleeper since the four month regression hit. Before then he would typically have a feed about 9.30 and then two feeds in the night. Since four months he's been waking much more frequently but the last few weeks it's been pretty horrendous. He always wakes forty minutes after bedtime and generally will only settle again after a feed. The longest stretch I seen to get after that is about 90 minutes and he then wakes almost every hour until morning wake up at 7.15 ish. Our day isn't exactly consistent because we have school drop off and pick up some days but not others. He goes to sleep independently for naps and at bedtime. He is a bit of a snacker and goes a maximum of three hours between feeds, generally it's a little less. I'm struggling to extend that for various reasons. On a good day, our routine looks something like this :

Wakeup 7.15
Sleep 9.30-11am
Sleep 1.30 - 2.15
Sleep 4.30 (this is generally a battle and I often have to feed him to sleep for a short cat nap. I haven't been able to extend the earlier nap to get away with dropping this one and we have to do older child pick up at 5.15 so I can't do it later).

I'm at an exhausted loss as to how to fix things. When he wakes in the night I try and settle without feeding but he will properly cry for a good fifteen minutes even with me picking him up and nothing else will do. Occasionally I can settle without a feed but it's probably only once a night out of about eight wake ups! Pick up put down wouldn't work because he doesn't actually settle when I pick him up unless I feed him. I don't think it's teeth because I gave him some calpol when he seemed particularly upset the other night and it made no difference. He's such a happy chilled out baby during the day and no sign of any discomfort that I can tell.

Please help!
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Sleeping For Toddlers / Re: Sisters sharing room or not?
« Last post by deb on December 16, 2019, 16:45:04 pm »
You also have the option of keeping a separate space in the playroom for the introvert to go to should she feel she needs it. My kids have always had their own rooms but had they shared, and when we travel and they have to share (eg at grandparents), DD1 always finds a place to "cocoon" by herself when she needs to recharge. Maybe keep a beanbag chair or a sleeping bag or a spare crib mattress on the floor in there, something like that.
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Sleeping For Toddlers / Re: Sisters sharing room or not?
« Last post by katerinask on December 16, 2019, 09:59:34 am »
Thanks for getting back to me and for the wise words. I am indeed grateful and I think about it every single day. Wouldn't it be great if our only problems were about whether or not our kids should share a room?  :) :) :)
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Sleeping For Toddlers / Re: Sisters sharing room or not?
« Last post by Katet on December 13, 2019, 20:36:50 pm »
I honestly don't remember why they went back to having their own rooms, it was just part of the journey.
As a parent of teens, I hold to a few mottos
1) you make decisions based on the evidence at the time and you can change many things if they don't work. 2) Children should have an opportunity to have an opinion BUT their experience in life should be factored as to if the opinion is used in making a decision. 3) things don't always work as planned...that's actually a good thing, we need our children to see life like that. 4) Getting things right first time all the time isn't success, making mistakes and learning how to work with the outcomes and improve is success.

IMHO if you are thinking about it...give it a go. If it isn't working out you go back to 2 rooms, if it does you have the answer. Either way when they are 12 or 15 or 20 and they are asking to talk through a decision, you use the bedroom sharing situation (either outcome) as an example.

As a life observation...be joyful you can be like this and sweat the small inconsequential stuff because as a part we do need to have our 'worry cup' and if we have the luxury to worry about things that are easy to change and control we are lucky.
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