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help please re 8month old settling himself!!!
« on: October 26, 2007, 21:51:40 pm »
i'm about to pull my hair out. its 10.45 pm and my ds is still awake since 9pm. he was put to bed at 7.30 but awoke at 9-my problem is that even 5 months after starting easy im still unsure about shush pat/pu pd. he has only settled himself a handful of times and althugh hes not scared of the cot he wont go asleep without a pat on bottom or rub on back. i tried it tonight and hence he wont settle.
once i put him in his cot give him paci and rub he goes off-but the time it takes to get him off is getting longer. i know he is beginning to use this as a prop but what do i do. i ve tried to stay beside him and talk to him reassuring him im there then when he kicks of i ve done pu pd-i feel like screaming at this stage. the hubby has been sent to him now as i type for help!
with pu pd you put down as soon as baby stops crying-which im doing then he starts talking or cooing-i kiss him say goodnight he cries again-do i pik him straight back up or let him try settle himself for a bit-do i just keep rubbing his leg till he needs it no longer?
please please help-hes 8 months in his own room-please advise me on what to do next???? :( :( ???

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Re: help please re 8month old settling himself!!!
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2007, 22:05:23 pm »
Hi at 8 months you should really be doing just the PD part of PU/PD, does he sit up in the crib or pull up to standing.  If so you need to not PU at all just do the PD part, in other words just lay him back down if sitting or if standing just sort of sweep his feet away whilst lowering his top half so you don't actually pick up.  If hes not yet doing these things then that may be your problem because at his age being picked up will almost guarantee he will create like hell when you go to lay him back down.  If this is the case could you just sort of sit him up with a hug then lay him back down.

I had similar problems with DD as she slept in a hammock and was physically unable to sit up in it until 12months when she had to be switched to a cot.  I remember it being a very tricky time and also quickly became DD prop.  I just had to go very slowly and use gradual withdrawal to get out of room.  First I just laid my hand on her, not stroking or rubbing, then as she got close to sleep I would gently lift my hand and only lower it if she looked like she was going to wake right up again.  Then I just sat beside hammock and used reassuring words.  She did protest at this and every next stage but I just stuck with it. Next I stood beside hammock and slowly just got closer to door.  By time I got to door I just went for it and left straight away and she was fine and just started going to sleep on her own again.  All this probably took 2-3weeks but was so worth it in the end.

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Re: help please re 8month old settling himself!!!
« Reply #2 on: October 26, 2007, 22:19:07 pm »
wow thanks for the speedy reply he has finally gone asleep with daddys hand in cot! hes only turning 8 months on 27th and is starting to pull his torso up but not standing yet.
so you reckon its ok to stop physical interaction and continue to talk to him to pacify him? wow it was tough tonite but he has never really broken free from the pat of the shush pat maybe its time he should?
i ll keep him in cot for pd only thanks for that and as u said a cuddle rather than pu. fingers crossd :-\

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« Reply #3 on: October 26, 2007, 22:48:31 pm »
Keep my fingers crossed for you.  Let me know how it goes  :)