I don't know that I have any answers, but I do have a couple of ideas & plenty of {{hugs}}!
Some folks (especially bf'ers) have luck with EAEAS. I usually tried to keep J & I on the breast longer & did compressions, particularly with J. I agree with pp about solids not helping increase calories, but I don't know how/if that would help with reflux. We didn't have that particular problem here. If solids helped the reflux & she was able to keep more milk down, then I could understand, but otherwise...
Sorry I'm not much help in that department.
Did the dr say *why* s/he wanted your dd to put on weight? Is she having plenty of wet nappies? Meeting milestones? I've just taken a look at the World Health Organization growth charts (
http://www.who.int/childgrowth/standards/cht_wfa_girls_p_0_6.pdf) and the US growth charts, and it seems as though her rate of gain is about on track for her birth weight. It looks like she's a petite little thing
, but it seems she's maintaining her growth on her percentile. It might be worth a call to the doctor's office to ask why and to make sure they plotted the correct weight at the correct age. Can't hurt.