overstimulation

[Yolande2008]

My lo is 3 months old and is a touchy baby and gets overstimulated easy (does not help that in-laws won't listen) when she gets overstimulated what am I to do?

[speechie]

Hi-definitely take your little one to a dark quiet room and comfort as able!  Sorry your ILs are not listening...make sure you keep advocating/explaining to them as you can...
Hugs-

[Mashi]

Yep, got the in-law problem here, too.   I sit and CRINGE while not only has MIL woken DS from his nap but then she walks him around her house and shows him EVERYTHING: "this is your cousin's Sponge Bob doll....and this is a painting of a horse, and this was your grandad and I on holiday, and this is his yellow and black striped shirt, and here is the TV, look what's on!" and on and on and on.

What I often have to do when we get home is take DS into the bathroom - the only room in the house with no windows and so can totally black it out - and calm him down COMPLETELY, because by the time we get home he's screeching from both OT and OS.  At his next feed and A time I have to be suuuuuper chilled out and keep him relaxed and not do much and do a shortened A time with a long quiet and cozy wind-down. 

And then pester DH to once again speak to his mother....

[Yolande2008]

Holy Cow, sorry but I am glad that I am not the only one... My mother in-law does the same about the walking even that I told her millions of times that A: I don't do that and B: I was in a car accident a few years ago and my wrists can't handle holding her let alone walking her... I still keep at them to stop and I gets looks but at this point I don't care.  So you take them into a dark room and just pat them and shh till they calm down?  Do you very gently rock them too?  I am finding it hard because she gets OS so easily but she also shows signs that she needs a change of scenery how do you balance this? 

[skatty]

Oh jeez they just don't get it do they? DD is very spirited and so easily OS that being a baby was a nightmare and my ILs just didn't get it and thought we were being over protective etc, whenever we  saw them it would be followed by an evening of screaming and NWs   What I did was look at it from DD's point of view, she couldn't say everything was too much so I had to do it for her, I also looked at life from her point of view and really started to understand how it was all too much and this gave me the balls to say no to all the invitations and tell people to not jostle her and to leave if I could see she was moving to the edge even if it was after 5 mins. Putting DD's stimulation on the same level as food and sleep really helped me cope with upsetting anyone else and worrying what they thought of me, even now we get comments because we don't drag her all over because she doesn't sleep well elsewhere but I know at the end of the day I am a good mum putting my child first and so are you  

Oh yes and I agree with pp that your DH should speak to his family, I'm sure you wouldn't think twice about saying the same to your mum and dad!