{{hugs}} It really does seem to be harder on the moms!
There are many different ways to go about it - have you checked out the weaning thread for some ideas?
I'd say maybe try to change up the bedtime routine so that her milk is not right before bed. Do it earlier in the routine and leave something else for right before sleep - lullaby, snuggling with a stuffed animal and you, that sort of thing. Some people also find it helps to have the father put her to bed for a few nights so that she's not really expecting the breast. Would that be an option for you?
