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Re: Desperate for sleep:1yr old, need bw coaching..PLEASE
« Reply #15 on: March 21, 2009, 01:35:31 am »
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Re: Desperate for sleep:1yr old, need bw coaching..PLEASE
« Reply #16 on: March 26, 2009, 14:45:59 pm »
Thank you again for sticking with me...I'm so sorry it's so long between posts, it just always seems to be something coming up.  So to answer your questions, he is the 25th percentile for height and weight.  He's gaining well according to the pediatrician.  He eats okay depending on the day, usually upon waking he has a good nurse so sometimes he'll have a big breakfast of eggs, toast, sometimes bacon or sometimes it's just cereal.  He seems to have a small lunch like he's too eager to run play to be bothered with eating.  Then his dinners are sort of hit and miss because he wants to nurse around 3 each day and have a snack with his brother so by the time it's dinner time around 5 he's either burned off his snack and wants to eat or he's not really hungry and nibbles.
We were doing well with going down in crib, with a little patting.  Only waking once per night (a little patting and back to sleep) and then of course the early waking between 5-6....but that felt like a success honestly.  Then Sunday, a fever, yikes.  Gave motrin and robitussin because he had runny nose too.  Slept well, in the evening stirred up several times but settled self.  Woke once that night for about an hour and I re-dosed his medicine and he went back down with patting.  Woke again early morning, around 4:30 and I nursed him back to sleep only because he was sick with fever.  The fever went away by the next day but runny nose stayed for a day longer along with clingy and whiny behavior and a short nap.  I kept up the medicine another day just in case, Tuesday, no runny nose or fever, less whining, still clingy but went a playgroup happily.  Very sensitive going down for nap that day, it took about 45 minutes, he slept 45 minutes, woke early and I rocked him back to sleep and he slept another 1.5 hours.  That night he refused to be put in his crib for bed...I think the long nap took the edge off his usual bedtime exhaustion but he did go to sleep after fussing, screaming, kicking as I laid him down, patted for about 20 minutes because each time I would taper it off, he would kick up again.  He woke several times that night, every 1.5 hours or so, each time I would pat him back to sleep and he would get still and quiet and then suddenly start screaming and whining while laying there.  It would take about and hour to get him settled each time...I think he woke about 4 times and an early wake about 6 or so.  I was a zombie.  That day, yesterday, he was clingly and whiny, and y really.  He would walk up and grab, pinch his brother and scratch at my face and throw a fit if I put him down...I mean, rolling round on the floor, kicking and crying, big tears too.  Same thing last night with the many wakings, patting back to sleep with lots of crying and whining while laying there.  Last night I was in there from 1:30-3:30 trying patting, homeopathic meds, motrin, all the things I'm supposed to do, then I finally picked him up just to settle his crazy acting crying and writhing and he settled pretty good on my shoulder then lost it again as I lay him down.  I tried patting another half hour then had to have a break.  I went downstairs to use the bathroom, get water and regain my composure because I was angry at this point.  I was gone about 5 mintues or a little less.  I went back in and laid him down and patted and he whimpered and whined while laying there for a while then went to sleep after about 30 mintues.  It was 4 am at this point and he woke at 6:45.  I nursed him upon waking and seemed floppy like he would go back to sleep if the light weren't peeking in around his blackout shades, but who knows really.  He nursed well, ate a good big breakfast and has been clingy and a little crabby and happy and playful this morning.  A note, during his crib fits while he writhes around and screams/cries, he chews and sucks on his hands/fingers and to rule out teething, I've been giving motrin and last night along with benedryl for inflamation.  Still no change so I really haven't a clue what is going on.  I'm consistant and routine but I'm wondering if he's addicted to me patting him to sleep.  He does still nurse before every nap and bed and this serves as a snack and settling, cuddling time but I'm wondering if that is getting in the way.  I don't want to take away his nurse because he finds it so comforting and I  make sure he isn't asleep before I put him down...if he seems asleep, I rouse him up as I put him to bed to make sure he falls asleep in bed.  Am I missing something? Doing someting wrong? FYI-there is a lot of tension in our house because we are trying to sell a house for 9 months now and my husband's company is stopping paying for our rent here in 2 months and our money is little to none after paying bills so there is a consistant worry among my husband and I all the time.  We just got an offer yesterday and we countered and we're waiting to find out what their reply is.  So that plays a part I'm sure.
I know, so much to sift through.  I hope something just pops into your head from the heavens because I ask God every night to help me and I'm feeling a little like this is the way things are going to be for a long time. Help change my attitude!!
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Re: Desperate for sleep:1yr old, need bw coaching..PLEASE
« Reply #17 on: March 26, 2009, 17:01:50 pm »
Hugs, Jennifer- it's soooo hard when they are sick and even a few days after! I know and truly can empathise- Nick's been hospitalized 2x this winter and he's poorly again! I'm exhausted, but when they are sick, you do have to comfort and then undo any accidental parenting/patterns afterwards.
One thing- has the MD checked his ears? I often find Nick has ear pain after colds and that can make it excruciating to lay flat, even with Motrin on board...maybe have his ears looked at.
Second, YES, tension in the house can definitely affect your LO- remember they understand everything at this age, even though they can't express themselves.
Third, we've used Melatonin at bedtime for 1-2 nights to reset his sleep patterns. You can get Melatonin at any drug store. We use 1/2 of the 3 mg tablet, crushed in applesauce, 30 mins prior to bedtime. It is a natural supplement that our body produces, you can call a nurse/MD first, but ours said it was OK.
Honestly, you will get through this, my heart goes out to you and I hope things get bettersoon!
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Re: Desperate for sleep:1yr old, need bw coaching..PLEASE
« Reply #18 on: March 26, 2009, 23:49:43 pm »
Thanks so much.  I actually had our pediatrician check him out a few weeks ago when he ran a weird fever and runny nose with no other symptoms and he came back clear.  I haven't been back this time around but it's something to consider if his mood doesn't improve.  I gave meds at nap today which is rare but last night I was up with him 5 times total, once for 2.5 hours.  MOstly him laying in his crib whining and chewing his hand, screaming at times.  I gave him pain meds and imflammation meds too and nothing seemed to work.  I feel like he might be in pain or uncomfortable but I can't imagine that is his primary reason for waking because he has always been a waker upper and more often than not he has had nothing else apparent going on.  Maybe teething or sickness makes it worse but since he's always done it, it has to be something else.  If we have another night like last night, I'm taking him in to get looked at.  I won't let him lay there and scream like others have suggested I do but at times I understand how a defeated parent can do it.  He's down now with meds, full belly, plenty of activity time.  I am going to get melatonin tomorrow, that is a good idea.  Thanks again for your help.  I hope to write again with good news. 
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Re: Desperate for sleep:1yr old, need bw coaching..PLEASE
« Reply #19 on: March 27, 2009, 14:52:38 pm »
Hugs- I hope it gets better soon, does sound like there may be pain involved with the chewing/whining/screaming...
good luck and hope the melatonin helps reset his clock!
Cathie
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