Screaming when waking up

[Boyz:)]

My youngest DS is almost 22 mths old.  When he wakes in the morning he screams and has a temper tantrum right from waking.  He's screaming "no...no...no....no".  I have no idea what's going on.....do I go in right away or do I wait until he's quiet?  When I have gone in there, he lays right down and the screaming stops.   How do I stop this screaming?  He does the same thing when he wakes up from his nap....it's like he's mad that he woke up.....


Thanks,
Kandace

[1sttimemamma]

Just replying so I can see responses. My 22 DS is sometimes so crabby in the morning - but mine is opposite, he seems to get crabby when I walk in his room.

[deckchariot]

What happens when you don't go in?  does he keep screaming for you?  When you go in and he quiets down, do you get him up then or does he go back to sleep?  does he have a wet/dirty nappy when he wakes?

My dd needs at least 15 min to herself when she wakes - if I go in, she flips out.  But then, she's not screaming unhappy either, so I don't know if that's helpful or not

[Boyz:)]

I didn't go in this morning and he screamed for 15 minutes.  I went in when he had quieted down and said good morning and such.  When I go while he's screaming, he immediately stops and lays down but it's time to get up then.  Sometimes he's wet or dirty but not every time so that's why it's baffling.  He literally wakes up and starts screaming "no...no....no"....I'm at a loss for this one.

[deckchariot]

If he kept screaming for 15 min, I would not wait that long, I'd go in as soon as he wakes.  Is he verbal enough to talk to you about what's going on - in terms of asking him what's wrong?  Does he always wake at the same time each day?  I'm wondering if you could go in before he wakes up and watch what happens as he wakes up.....

[Boyz:)]

Good idea, Michelle....I'm going to sneak in and see what happens when he wakes up.  He has been waking consistently at 7:00 for the longest time.  In the last two weeks, it's been between 6 and 6:15.  He's cutting his last two bottom teeth...one canine and one front.  He's always whimpered or fussed when he woke up but nothing like the temper tantrums of the last two weeks.  He sounds seriously p**sed off at the world.

Thanks,
Kandace

[deckchariot]

It could be teething - he could be waking because of pain.  Let me know what your "spying" efforts notice and we'll see if that helps!

[mimicoto]

Hi there - Just checking in because it sounds like my DS is living at your house! :-)  He is exactly the same age and has gone through exactly the same thing - the worst of it was from about 20 months to just recently.  Some days it's worse than others but it seems to be tapering off.  I too had no idea what was causing it, and it seemed when I tried to intervene (comfort or whatever - even just sit near his crib to 'be there' for him) it made things worse.  Major, screaming fits and no-no-no for like 20 minutes.  We thought it might be teething as well, but meds made no difference.  As I couldn't determine the cause, I have just chalked it up to the terrible twos - who knows what's going on in their little brains that are developing so quickly at this stage?  The fact that he also sometimes even chants no-no-no while he is sleeping leads me to believe that this is just something that can't really be 'fixed' and (as we're starting to see now) will pass with time.  It is unpleasant for sure, but I settled for doing what I could - i.e. sitting with him to show him that even if he can't handle whatever big things he's feeling, I can.  Not sure that this helps, but wanted to let you know you weren't the only one!  Good luck!!