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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #15 on: May 13, 2009, 23:41:40 pm »
Aurora, how did you tweak your A times for you LO and what did you do differently with the wind down? My daughter is going 2 to 2 hours 15 minutes and she'll be 6 months old in 2 weeks. Honestly, I can't tell anymore when the right time is to get her to sleep. Sometimes she seems really cranky after an hour or hour and a half, so it's very confusing. The problem I have with the winddown period in general is that she frequently acts fussy and restless. So let's say I try to read a book with her as a part of the winddown. She doesn't get increasingly calm; She seems to get increasingly annoyed that I'm sitting with her and being still.

Thank you for the encouragement, Emma. I'm ordering some powerhouse room darkening shades to see if that helps at all.

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #16 on: May 14, 2009, 01:48:04 am »
Sometimes less is more.  I found with my son - 5-10m wind down was better than a long drawn out process.  Any longer and he'd get really frustrated like, "Ok lay me down already woman".

Darkening shades were a MUST as well as white noise (I used a fan on high pointed at the wall).
      

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #17 on: May 14, 2009, 12:59:32 pm »
Absolutely with pp on blackout blinds and white noise! 

As for wind down I think it's just a case of experimenting to see what works best - some LO's need a really, really short wind down whereas it takes my LO a bit longer to transition from activity to sleep so I have to take it slowly. Previously I was taking him upstairs, reading a story and singing a lullaby then putting him in his cot.  This is what we do now: about 20 minutes before sleep time I stop whatever activity we're doing and spend a few minutes looking out of the window, watching the cars, birds, trees etc.  Then we go for a walk around the room, looking at the pictures and in the mirror.  Next I take him upstairs and we say bye bye to the sun, sky and next door's chickens (LOL - my DH thinks I'm a loony but I make him do it too when he puts LO down for a nap!).  We go in to his room and cuddle on the chair with his lovie while I read a story, then we close the blinds, swaddle, have another little cuddle and then into his cot.  Now, for some LOs that would be WAY too much so I'm not recommending this as an approach, it's just what works for us.

As far as A times are concerned, we're now working on 2hrs 20 - 2.5 hours and my DS will also be 6 months in just under two weeks (27th May).  Maybe it would be worth trying 5 minutes longer on your As for 3 days to see what happens?  Just a word of warning though, my DS does seem to be able to handle slightly longer A times so you'd need to be careful you don't end up with the OT monster!  My DS also sometimes seems cranky really early into his A time sometimes but I tend just to change the activity and he quietens down again (think he has a short attention span like his dad!)

Agree with Emma about so much of it depending on the temperament of your LO too - mine is textbook but soo touchy when it comes to sleep that we also need everything just so...and I just figure out what 'just so' is and then he goes and changes his mind  ::)

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #18 on: May 15, 2009, 14:34:28 pm »
Hi I have a rather strange question. Sorry if it sounds silly! In using shush pat in the crib, we turn baby to her side and pat her back rhythmically? But in trying to help my baby extend her nap I use shush pat, she seems to get woken up more when I turn her to the side and shush pat her.

Am I doing it right?
 

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #19 on: May 15, 2009, 20:24:20 pm »
Not a silly question at all!  You can modify the technique to fit your baby :)   Your baby is 8w old right?  Pat/shh will be a little different for you in that you can put baby to sleep with it; as explained in this post:  http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=26672.0 

I saw another post of yours that asked if you turn baby to his/her back after they fall asleep - I always left O a little on his side (so part on his side, partly on his back) as he seemed to prefer this position.  I put a little blankie rolled and placed it behind his back from the shoulder blades down.  But this all depends on your personal comfort level.  If you want to have baby on his/her back, then do roll them slowly and gently as not to startle.

You could try a hand on her tummy or leg with a pat or even a rhythmic gentle jiggle or a rub, or even just shhhing alone might be all she needs. Experiment :)  Also, be sure to give her a chance to re-settle herself before going in.

Also I saw baby likes to suck her thumb/hand - you could try the Aussie swaddle: http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=1439.msg773602#msg773602

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #20 on: May 16, 2009, 02:16:01 am »
Thanks for your response Zoey. :) I tried having my LO on her side just now for her nap and found her on her tummy like half hour into the nap. Then at the 1.5hr, she was trying to turn her head but couldn't cos of the swaddle (anyway at 8wo she won't be able to do it efficiently as well! :P). That frustrates her and she woke up crying.

I will try to have her on her back for the afternoon nap and see how it goes. Then will try your suggestion of patting on her leg / tummy. If it doesn't work still I'll try to place the rolled blankie on her back and see if it works! I hope I find the appropriate position for her soon. She has no problems on her back at night!!

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Re: shush patting in crib - What should happen over time?
« Reply #21 on: May 16, 2009, 23:48:29 pm »
Thank you, Aurora, for all the details!! It helps to hear!!! I did have a little breakthrough today, although it could be a fluke. I pushed her awake time to be longer first thing this morning and as a result, I got 1 hour 20 minute nap instead of two 45 minute naps. The afternoon nap, however, was 30 minutes long, so she seems hardwired to wake up early.

Thank you again!!