BBB nightmare!

[alilaa]

One week ago we took the side off DS1 cot, we did this because we are moving to a new house in 4 weeks and DS2 needs the cot he barely fits in the bassinet any more and in the new house DS1 will have a BBB.

The first 2 days naps and settling were as usual; wind down routine, into bed blows us a kiss and then STTN. Same at nap time - no drama. 

  WHAT HAPPENED?
Like we flicked a switch now he will scream the house down if we close the gate to keep him in his room and WI/WO is not working. If we have the gate open he will come out we put him back in and so it goes for up to 3 hours (we gave up before he fell asleep).
The only way to get him to sleep is to sit in his room with him until he falls asleep which takes ages because he constantly sits up to check if you are still there. this is not a workable option for me as I am no my own most nap and bed times with the baby as well I can't spend that much time just sitting in the room.

Is this common? Did we screw up? What should we do? 

[speechie]

Hi there- I do think it's common!
You're not alone!
REad these links/stories for ideas-
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=113115.0
anyone else with experience?
I've not made the switch yet, and I'm dreading it!!
I think that as long as you stay consistent with your approach, you'll get through it!

[Declans_Mommy]

http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=156172.0

that's my current story... seems similar

[becky1969]

I have to wonder if he didn't startle himself by *almost* rolling out of bed one sleep period.  My son is almost 4 and that happened to him about a month after moving into his BBB (which is just a toddler bed, so low to the ground).  Since then he puts a stool by his bed to 'keep him from rolling out'.    He's much older thanyour son, so came up with a solution himself! But clearly it disturbed him.  I think the same must have happened with your DS and he just si too small to communicate it.


I think I'd try to come up with a way to make the bed more safe/comfortable for him.  If it's a crib and you took the sides off, do you have any other type of rail there? How far off the ground is it?  You might also give DS a new stuffed animal and tell him its his 'guardian'.  This also often helps LOs adjust to their new beds/rooms.  Feeling like they have a friend looking out for them can be very calming.

Let me know what the bed situation is like and we'll work on this some more!

[alilaa]

The bed is a cot with the side off, it is abut a foot from the ground. The first 2 nights we had a mattress on the floor next to the bed and he did roll out of bed onto the mattress both nights (about a 10cm drop!) so the third night we used a bed rail. It stops him from falling out but is short enough that he can still get out on his own. The night we put up the rail is the first night we had problems. and now we are very much captive in the room until he falls asleep.
It's been one week since the sides came down and I can't help but think should we just put them back up until we move? will we have to start wi/wo all over again if we do put them back up?
Last night he had 2 NW's which is very uncommon for him. I ended up falling asleep on the couch in his room with him lying on top of me, DH found us like this at 5am when DS2 was crying for a breast feed and I wasn't in our room.
It seems to be getting worse...

[Declans_Mommy]

i did post a link to the forum i started, but i see now that it didn't show up.

I think it says Transition to BBB when WI/WO is a game

[Declans_Mommy]

ok so i can see that i'm really on the bit tonight!  my link did show up the first time, just in blue, so i didn't notice at first glance.... well perhaps you don't want my advice tonight!  Just Kidding.   

Do you think that that technique in my story could maybe help?  that then he's still aware that your slowly working your way out the door, and then your there in time to catch him if he tries to get out of bed.  For me personally i want to be able to take the time to teach him as well that when he's put down to sleep he's not supposed to get out of it until the morning.  If i did walk out the whole way at first too he would get up EVERY TIME out of bed.  If Declan is tired enough it doesn't take long for him to be sleeping.  We often run around outside half an hour before supper to burn off some energy.  It sounds like you have a lot on your plate with a new little one and moving... Perhaps it would be easier on both of you to make the transition after being settled once moved???  Is it possible as well he's not adjusting to the change as well with a new baby???  Just a few thoughts.  Hope that helped some.  Good Luck!