Thanks ladies!
Ok, after my post, of course the baby acted out of the ordinary and slept right through! He went to bed an hour late because we had been out for dinner. Then at the DF I found he was wet already. We changed him at 11pm and put him down and he slept until 7.45am!!!!!!! This is unusual though. But due to his lovely feed this morning we may have more chance at having a settled baby tonight.
Nappies - I'm getting the next size up. I'll go out today and buy them. That should fix the "wetting" problem. This is a new problem because he has grown out of this size even though the box says it should fit him for a while yet.
Paci - I will start putting a selection of dummies in the crib today. He does know how to put one in although doesn't always get the right end in, especially when upset. Sometimes I go in and he's crying for it and it's right under his nose! So I think he just wants me to put it in!! On the flip side, in the evening I actually try to feed him and put him down without one. This is a new thing and most nights he is actually quite happy to sleep without one. Probably only 20% of the time during the night is the paci the reason he wants me there. But I'll knock that over with adding extras to the crib and teach him to find them. Might start putting some around his play mat in the lounge room and let him play with them.
Settling - Yes, shh/pat. On the very rare occassion he needs pu/pd. My DH had to stay on the spare bed in there the other night from 4am -5am and every 3 mins the baby would cry and he would shhh/pat. Not quite sure what bub wants. He has a paci, had just been fed at 3am. Company??? To sleep with us?? Snack??
Meals - He's on 4 BF a day, DF at night, 3am BF. He's also having 3 solid meals a day and I feed him until he refuses food so he's definately getting enough at each meal. Should I add snacks during the day too?? Feels like I'd be feeding him non stop then but maybe he needs it??
Thanks for all your help!
Suz