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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #15 on: October 16, 2009, 13:58:55 pm »
WIWO really isn't appropriate until they're after 11-12 months old. At this age PUPD doesn't comfort them. The point of picking him up isn't to comfort him, it's just to reassure him that you're there, and that you'll stay there until he manages to comfort himself.
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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #16 on: October 16, 2009, 17:58:58 pm »
Hi Anna,

Thanks for the short and sweet description of PU/PD.  I am holding waaaay longer than I should by the sound of it!!!  As with Alex it's a bit daunting to think about doing and now is probably not the right time for me but something to think about.  I just can't bare the thought of lots of crying which I think I'll have at the start of trying - is there a way round this????  Or do I just have to tell myself its for the best in the long run?

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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #17 on: October 16, 2009, 18:03:06 pm »
If you're doing PUPD yes there is likely to be lots of crying. But often they'll surprise you with how quickly they get the hang of it. If you start with the first nap of the morning, you can sometimes even get an improvement by bedtime! Remember there's nothing wrong with crying in and of itself. I know it can be hard to hear, but it's the only way they have of saying, mummy I'd really rather be nursed/cuddled/rocked to sleep. Earplugs can take the edge off it. It's important to stay calm, because they really do pick up on it if you're anxious.
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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #18 on: October 17, 2009, 14:31:04 pm »
Another bad night last night. He woke up when I was writing my post (10pm) so I gave him his feed then. Then I went to bed and was soundly asleep when he woke at 12.39am and he wouldn't settle....finally at 2.34am I decided he'd gone over 4 hours so I could feed him. He didn't fall asleep on the breast but he did calm down. Then I put him back in his bed with his eyes wide open and he went to sleep all by himself. He can do it sometimes!

But the two hours when he wouldn't settle almost killed me as I was sooooo tired and he was really really unhappy.

I don't know what to do now. In theory we are trying to eliminate all night feeds except the DF, but since he had woken so early and had used up so much energy crying during that time, I felt it was all I could do to feed him at 2.34am. But that kind of sends the wrong signals doesn't it?

So, should I go cold turkey on the night feeds and just do PU/PD until 6am or so, or is one night feed still OK at this age? A few nights ago he did resettle, I did another dreamfeed around 3.30am to tide him over to the morning, but this time he didn't resettle so that wasn't an option. I don't want him to learn that crying for 2 hours gets him a feed but I do worry that he's genuinely hungry. Also, I don't want him to settle only to wake again an hour later and start crying for 2 hours all over again because he's hungry.

What should we do? It's really confusing!

I really appreciate everyone's advice so far.
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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #19 on: October 17, 2009, 16:22:33 pm »
Is he going through a growth spurt?

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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #20 on: October 18, 2009, 06:40:19 am »
I do think he might have been going through a growth spurt, but he's just not learnt to self settle himself yet, that's the main problem. He's getting a proper dinner of rice cereal around 6pm, so that should fill him up more.

Last night was a bit better, he woke up at 1am and resettled quickly after I gave him his bear back, then he woke at 3.30am and I fed him, then he woke at 4.50am and resettled again quickly after I gave him his bear again.

Now we're trying to put him down for a nap but he's really overtired (had a busy morning so he missed his nap, then slept only half an hour in his carseat) and hysterical....PU/PD doesn't seem to be doing anything...my husband still want to let him CIO. I don't know what to do. It's very frustrating.
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Re: 6 month old waking twice during the night
« Reply #21 on: October 18, 2009, 09:13:17 am »
Hey that sounds like a great night!!

PUPD is really difficult for an OT baba. If he's that overtired, I would do whatever it takes - rock, cuddle, feed to sleep - then go back to PUPD when he has caught up on some rest. I really hope your husband doesn't persuade you to resort to CIO - here's a link which explains why BW really encourage us to avoid CIO or CC techniques: http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=63839.0
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