12 month old wakes evry 2-3hrs at night and very restless sleeper please help

[lozzyb123]

hi i am so tierd my baby boy will be one in 5 days time and he has never really slept throught the night but he gradualy started to go about 5 hours being his longest streatch at night but the last month he as been wakeing every 2- 3hrs at night and crying but the i will go in and lay him downa nd he will be very restlkess for about 20 mins i may have to go back in agen the he will fall asleep for another 2 hrs its getting so bad and i am also expecting another lil baby on may 3rd so i realy need some sleep please help he is takign a few steps.


hi routine is like this but is very up and down as he is tierd alot during the day...


awake 7.30am / 8

E- bottle - 8am - 5oz
   breakfast -8.30am - weetabix
A
s-10.15/30am (sleeps 1hr 30 mins)
   snack - banana

A-11.45AM

E- lunch - 12.15/30pm -


bottle 2.30pm - 5oz

S- 3/3.15pm - always has a 45 min nap

A- 4pm

E - dinner - 5pm

bedtime routine around 6.30pm ( bottle 4oz , pj's on and read story into cot by 7pm/7.15pm)

he goes to sleep ok by himself he does have a dummy and a blankie whitch he always has in his cot.)


please any help welcome


thanks

laura x

[deckchariot]

{{{{hugs}}}} to you - it's so hard when you're short on sleep!  And I cannot imagine being pg too!

Is he screaming when he wakes?  Could it be teething?  Do you pick him up when you go in or give him a cuddle?  When you lay him down, you want to interact with him as little as possible, just say "lay down, it's time for night night" and lay him down (or a similar phrase that works for you).  Is he walking?

I'm thinking he's in the midst of switching to 1 nap, and it looks like you're in a pattern already of doing a long am nap and a short pm nap.  Does he go down fine for those naps?  I'm also thinking his bedtime is a bit early based on his awake time.  Very few 12mo will do more than a 12 hr night.  So if he's getting up at 7:30/8, you'd want to aim for bedtime around 7:30/8 (12 hrs after wake up).  He may not be tired enough when he first goes to sleep, so he sleeps a bit, then wakes and can't get back to sleep, then gets OT during the night so his sleep continues to be restless.  He also may need some more A time between that last nap and bedtime.

If he's going down well for naps, I'd just extend his bedtime a bit later.  If he's not, then I'd push that am A time out (just 15 min or so) and cut the pm nap a bit shorter to give you more  A time between that nap and bedtime

hth
michelle

[lozzyb123]

hi michelle he kind off just like winges when he wakes well if i put him to bed at 7 he usually wakes at 11 / 12isham then he will wake every 2 hrs after that he goes down very well for both naps. he didnt have a nap today untill 12 pm he woke at 1.30pm so i think i may give him a 15 min nap at 4.45 of he will be so tierd when he does go to bed he woke at 8 today so i will have him in bed for 8 tonight do u think the 15 min nap sounds ok or should i just leave him untill bedtime??


thankyou so so much x

laura x

[deckchariot]

I would definitely do a short catnap - 15 - 30 min should be fine.  I'm wondering if the NWs are part of the 2 to 1 nap switch.  It may be time to push that morning nap a bit later and shorten the pm nap a wee bit too.  If he's just kind of fussy crying, it's likely not pain that's waking him, and sometimes bubs get all kinds of weird NWs during the 2 to1 switch.  Let me know how it goes tonight with a shorter catnap, that will give us a bit of a clue.

[lozzyb123]

hi last night he had a 15 min nap at 4.50pm till 5,10ish then he went to bed at 7.15 is fell asleep at 7.30pm and he woke at 10pm crying i gave him a bottle of milk and he drank a full bottle he then slept untill 4am wen he just fussed and went back to sleep till 5 am wen i had to go in and he slept till 6.15 wen he wanted to get up . so today i gave him at nap at 9.30am as he was really tierd he slept till 11 he has just fallen asleep now and he will sleep for about 45 mins . what do i do if he wakes at at around 6.30 should i just still try and push his nap x

[deckchariot]

I would see how he's doing in the morning.  You don't want to push it so he gets OT, but if you keep doing early naps, then it will be tough to do the transition.  So tread carefully - if you think he can go 15 more minutes, give it a go.

Do you usually give him a bottle when he wakes at night?  That can become a habit super quickly and bubs will find they "need" it in order to go back to sleep - and some bubs will eat less in the day because they know they'll get it at night.  At a year, he really doesn't need to eat in the nighttime.  I'm just wondering if that's contributing to the NWs.