14month old, cant get him to sleep??

[Etsy]

 

Hi, me again:)
Here is our situation,any advice would be really appreciated.

Our little one is 14 months old and is just fantastic!! I was at home with him and started working part time when he was 10 months and went back full time 5 weeks ago. Due to this we have a lady that is with him three days a week and my mom looks after him 2 days a week. They are both very aware of his routine and what he needs and he goes to sleep perfectly for them both. He gets home with my hubby and then I get home and he is soooo excited. We have dinner and play for about an hour and a half, then we go bath and start getting ready for bed. He has gone down so well previously. Now he just wont have any of it. If I am with him he is calm but not sleeping, If I say goodnight and leave the room he screams the house down, I have tried WIWH but he gets so upset when I leave he cant calm down enough to be okay when I am back. I am pretty sure he just does not want me to go, but what do I do? My hubby got him down for an afternoon sleep over the weekend, maybe he should try the night time sleep too? I dont know, I love spending this time with him.
He is due to start daycare in a few weeks, is he going to be able to handle that? Soo worried!!

Thanks for any advice, sorry for my little moan:)

[mmom]

What is his routine like?

WI/WO makes my LO hysterical as well.  I am sorry because I don't know how to link, but did you read the sticky on Gradual Withdrawal?  After we did that, whenever we have issues with my LO, we had to make up our own way of calming him.  We would sit outside the door and tell him that it was ok and time to go to sleep.  He would freak out, but would settle and go to sleep.  We would stay there as long as it took for him to settle down.

[Etsy]

Hi, thanks for that. I really dont know what to do. I will try find the gradual withdrawl thing now. His routine is like this at the moment:

Wakes: 6.00
Breakfast and activity
Snack: just before 10
10.00 Sleep for an hour, (we wake him up)
11.00 wakes up
Activity
1.00 lunch
2.30 ish nap for an hour
3.30 wakes up
Activity
5.15 Dinner
6.45 bath
7.30 bed (supposed to be....

thanks again xx

[Mashi]

It could be that he is not ready for bed yet - it might be time to take another step in the transition to 1 nap.  Usually LOs at this age are having one long nap and one short nap, and his two one hour naps are sort of both mid-sized naps...not enough to be a long restorative nap, and too long to be a short catnap.

At 14 months many LOs are doing either a 2ish hour nap in the late morning, say from 11-1pm and then a shorter catnap of 30-45 minutes from say 5-530 and then to bed a couple of hours later.  OR they are doing a short 30-45 minute catnap in the morning, say from 1000-1030 and then a long nap from say 200-330 and bed 4ish hours later.  Obviously times are all dependent on A time, wake time, and so on.   

I would look at cutting one of his naps to 45 minutes and making the other one longer -- which one depends a bit on your LO and probably a lot on what his routine will have to be like when he starts daycare in a few weeks. Do you know what your daycare does for nap times?

[Etsy]

Thanks for the reply:) I think trying to go for the one nap might be the best idea as that is what they do at the day care. I was worried about it when I went to check the day care out. The owner assured me that they all have one nap and most of the time the children who were on two naps generally go to one as they want to do what the other kids are doing. Maybe he will find the whole process easier if he is on the one nap already. Is four hours Activity okay for his age, some days he can go longer but others he battles to get there.

thanks again xx

[mmom]

Like Mashi said, most transition a little more slowly, rather than jumping to 1 nap.  I think Mashi was saying to cut one of your naps first.  Would they do that at day care?  If not, you could always have 1 nap days when at day care and 2 nap days when your LO is with you.  Your LO will most likely get OT from the switch and need some 2 nap days to make up for it.

[Mashi]

Like Mashi said, most transition a little more slowly, rather than jumping to 1 nap.  I think Mashi was saying to cut one of your naps first.  Would they do that at day care?  If not, you could always have 1 nap days when at day care and 2 nap days when your LO is with you.  Your LO will most likely get OT from the switch and need some 2 nap days to make up for it.

Yes, exactly.

In order to handle 1 nap successfully, LOs need to be able to handle an absolute minimum of 4.5 hours of A time and most can not stay on one nap 100% of the time until they can do 5ish hours of A time.  If your Lo is battling to do 4h of A time, then it will be pretty hard to do a one nap day. He may do it on daycare days because he's got no choice, but on the days he is at home I would do 2 naps to make up for the lost sleep and to keep his A times shorter and prevent OT.

That said, staying on 2x1hr naps is not really the best thing, IMHO - neither of those naps is long enough to be restorative and it would be better for him to have a short nap and a long nap. Also, because the short nap will help along the process to dropping a nap altogether. What time is the nap at daycare? That will help you to know which nap to cut and which nap to extend from his current routine.

[Etsy]

Hi

Thats really great thanks so much. His day care has the sleep late morning so will make his early one longer and his second one shorter. I was letting him have a long sleep previously but he was waking up at night for a few hours and it was suggested that he was sleeping too much during the day. Such a fine line:)

Will give it a go, thanks so much.