Separation Anxiety

[scucci1979]

Not sure if this is the right place to post!

My 14.5 month old lo seems to be going through some separation anxiety with me.  It has been a month now that I have been back at work full time and she seems fine when I leave in the morning. I always say Mommy loves you and will be back later.  When I come home, I can barely take my shoes off. She runs to me wanting to be picked up. The moment I put her down, she begins to cry. I can't even have dinner. On days that I am home, she does not want to be away from me. She will play by herself if I am in the same room, but as soon as I leave she has a meltdown. She follows me, cries and pulls at my legs.  I tell her I am leaving the room and will be back, but it doesn't work.  The funny thing is I normally go to the kitchen and she can clearly see me from where she is(open concept).  


Any suggestions/advice on how to combat this?

thanks

[einatm]

Sound difficult... I only have one daughter 6, barely 6 months old, but from what i know (and try) with her - baby steps...
You put her down and sit next to her, you can comfort her - on the floor or by holding her, but then put her down and try gradually to comfort on the floor and after it works - try moving further from her - always talk to her.

Then (hopefully) you'll be able to go to the kitchen - still talk to her from there - then your room, and still talk to her. Your voice should be your normal voice, in order not to make her think there's a real reason for being upset (i made this mistake once - when she cried i held her in front of me and said "mummy's here, mummy's here" with horror in my eyes and complete panic - it made her histerical of course).

I think it should be a process - first hold her, then try putting her on the floor still holding her and hugging her, then just sit with her and touch her, then just sit, then move further. Good luck!