14 months - NW and irratic naps!!

[annette.xx]

ah thanks for that!

well she already woke up at 9.15 for a few minutes - had to stroke her hair a little but went back down...

im thinking its a case of the old UT OT thing.... this happens to me when she gets OT but not so OT that she goes into a dead sleep which would cause EW instead it causes NW...

im really hoping I can get this sorted cos im so tired and she is even more tired!!

thanks again for your support!

Annette.xx

[squeakersmum]

Let us know how tonight goes!

XXX

[marlowsmom]

I'm in the same boat with you Annette.    I pushed Marlow's A time to 5 hours and she slept 1.5 hours.   She woke at 1pm.   I'm also doing a 5.5 hour A before bed.   I think I'm going to be running a bit late.    I've had multiple NW the last 4 nights due to me playing with her schedule.   I know it takes them a few days to recover from OT and it takes them a few days to get used to a new schedule so I'm going with alternating one nap every other day.

[annette.xx]

I hope it worked out ok for you marlows mum - think thats a good idea alternating...

well my night was actually really good - she woke twice but not like the normal hour+ NWs it was literally one WI/WO both times!!! and then she woke at 6am this morning - so 11.5 hrs night sleep - the best in soooo long!

now Ive gone and done a stupid thing today - because I dont want to repeat the 1 nap and have to put her to bed earlier than yesterday meaning 5.30 am wake up I decided to stretch her out to 11.30 for her nap - hoping for a long 2 hr nap so I can put her to bed at 6.30 again - ive just put her down and she was chatting loads and a bit hyper - I can feel a 1 hr 20 min nap coming on....

my problem is that because I work 3 days a week and dont get home until 6.30 it means on those days Its around 7.15/30 before I can get her to bed making for a long day if she doesnt nap well and will gaurantee me NW or EW so how would you handle this?

Im thinking I could either ;

a) get her up early on work days so start day always at 6am then get MIL to do 2 naps like this;

11am - 12.30
4.30 - 5
8pm bedtime

or

b) do a set naptime of 11.30 stick with the same time eventually pushing it forward slightly - hope that she will settle in to a routine of waking up later around 7 and just rush her to bed when I get back...

its so hard isnt it!!

[*Becky*]

I would favour the second tbh but only as I could NEVER wake DS in the am - it would break my heart after all the early mornings we go through here!!!
I would def say the second but the problem is that it does mean a flexible approach to bedtime especially when they first transition so you may find that she needs an earlier bedtime than 7/7.15pm.
The only other thing is to just set naptime for slightly later and bedtime at the time you get in and hope she adjusts. We are doing something similar xxx

[squeakersmum]

So glad you had a good night!  And fingers crossed for you that she has a good nap!

XXX

(btw I would also favour the 2nd option...I've found that DS sleeps so much better on 1 nap)

[Riley&Avery'sMommy]

Hi All
Just jumping in here too, thanks to the link from Marlowsmom.  I too am having all the same problems with DD who is 14 months.  Is it something about this age???  Anyway I just wanted to jump in here too.

[annette.xx]

hello rileys mum!

yeah its defo the age that the fun and games begin!!

well unfortunately I was right and she did a 1 hr 20 min nap - now im sooooo confused as what to do - my gut instinct is to do an early bedtime again thinking 6pm so a 5 hr A time - could still get an OT EW from that but very reluctant to do an earlier bedtime than that incase of a 5am wake up!

I got a 11.5 hr night yesterday but she had also had 2 1/2 hr nap so total sleep = 14 hrs so If I get the bedtime right and she makes up for lost daytime sleep then she should by rights do a 12.5 hr night but im not convinced that im going to get that! do you ladies think 6pm is too late?

also when she woke from nap I did WI/WO quite a few times and it wasnt working so gave up and just kept her in her dark room cuddling her for about another 45 mins - she was almost falling asleep but just couldnt quite manage it! im thinking maybe that quiet time should help a bit.

ooooohhhhhhhh sooooooooooooo haaaaaaaaarrrdd!!!!

Annette.xx

[*Becky*]

we get 1.20 a lot and today actually! I have stopped worrying about OT or UT as far as that goes as it was driving me crazy. I will do 6.30pm bedtime which is 5 hours A time.
I think that if you have a lo who can make up the sleep at night then 6pm is not too early but we have to set a limit at 6.30pm as Henry would just wake up too early otherwise. Basically some benefit really well from a super early bed but some don't.

[annette.xx]

shes already asleep - couldnt keep awake while feeding so obviously needed the sleep!!

who thinks im in for a 5am start!!!

[MummyToBen]

I think it's worth really taking note as to whether an early night actually lead to an earlier morning for your lo - my DH was dubious for months about us putting Ben to bed early - and it was only after a looooong time that it twigged that earlier nights often meant *later* mornings for us!!  If you find that it does help then you'll be more confident about giving early nights when needed

xx

[annette.xx]

it worked last night - 11.5 hrs is amazing for me and if id have put her to bed at 7.30 I can guarantee that she would have woken at 5.30/6 so earlier and with less sleep!

im just thinking that if I get the same 11.5 hrs then she was down by 5.45 so would be up at 5.15 but then at least would wake refreshed!

13 1/2 hrs - 14 hrs a day sleep is truely amazing so I will be happy if I can get it sorted!

and tonight the weirdest thing happened - she didnt scream at me when I got her ready for bed - she actually layed and let me massage her - trust me its never happened not even once - she is super touchy and spirited and has always cried every night before bed!

Annette.xx

[*Becky*]

good luck - fingers crossed. x

[annette.xx]

oh dear she already woke up crying! just one quick WI/WO and she was down again but obviously some OT lingering from that short nap after long morning A time!

[annette.xx]

update - she woke at 7.30 then 11pm then heard nothing from her until 6.30!

I got a 11.5 hr night yesterday but she had also had 2 1/2 hr nap so total sleep = 14 hrs so If I get the bedtime right and she makes up for lost daytime sleep then she should by rights do a 12.5 hr night but im not convinced that im going to get that! do you ladies think 6pm is too late?

this is exactly what happened - spooky!!

so today I have put her down for first nap with just 4 1/2 hrs A time and see what that gets me - she was very tired when I put her down... hopefully not OT

I am going out tonight so the super early bedtime is actually good for me today! but work tomorrow so Im thinking OT is going to come get me on sunday....

Annette.xx