Maybe sh/pat or "Mummy" addiction

[mummy_leah]

Please help.

My previous posting was sh/pat addiction but was adviced to come here. LO is 9 months old, been in nursery a month, has also been ill in that time but now better. She is waking 2-9 times with EW!!

She has no props. At 7 months we went cold-turkey on the dummy as she was waking constantly for a re-plug, after that she was slept until 5ish. Then it went down hill. Recently I have stopped sh/patting to sleep as I thought she was addicted to that, I am also gradually withdrwing myself to the door. I am also currently weaning the night bottle feed (but it started long before that).

WHen she wakes I stop and listen, sometimes she puts self back to sleep but mostly crys until I come and sh/pat her. I have introducted a lovely about 4 days ago. We have had one good night in a week, where she woke twice and then was up at 6.20  . Now she is waking lots (last night 6).

I am so tired I am struggling badly.

Here is rough routine

E-7 breakast. Up at 5
A-play
S-8 (anything from 30-60)
E-10 bottle
A-play, out for walk etc
S-sometimes 11.30 (for 30 if up at 5. If up later not needed. If morning nap1hr then not needed)
E-12.30 lunch
A-play, walk etc
S-3 nap (30-60)
E-6pm dinner
A-read story in bedroon
S-7pm

If at nursery, she often doesnt get a propper nap (like yesterday) but she is only there 2 days

I appreciate any help. Many thanks 

[anna*]

It sounds to me like she's overtired, she's only getting max 2 hrs sleep a day, and 10hrs at night? I would try to give her an early bedtime, like 6pm, and try to make sure that she's not awake for more than 4hrs through the day. Does she never nap longer than 1hr? If you put her to bed at 6, even if she wakes up at 5 she will have had 11hrs overnight and will be less OT the next day.

[mummy_leah]

Thanks for getting back to me. I am currently trying for an earlier bed time. Sometimes she does sleep for longer than an hour. This morning an hour and a half and a hour in the afternoon. But yes, not normally for than 2 hours.

I am miffed really though, as she has always napped like this and used to sleep from 7pm-5am.

Last night was a better with only three night wakings. And went through to 6am (hurray).

I am still doing the gradual withdrawal from the room, but she has got quite upset the last few nights and I have ended up shushing (no patting). I am still not picking up unless hysterical. But with this method am I meant to leave her to cry??

Thank you

[anna*]

No, don't leave her to cry UNLESS she is mantra crying which is the sort of rhythmic cry which doesn't escalate which they use to try to settle themselves. We never really got 2 hr naps either, 1.5hrs was a great nap for us. Fingers crossed for an even better night for you, and 11hrs last night is excellent!

[mummy_leah]

Hello there, I thought would let you know about the last three nights. They have been great!

The first nigth she woke at 9, and I thought "here we go again!", but I left her as she wasnt crying just moaning and didnt sound destressed (she usually gets upset and then I go in). It was a long wait but she put herself back to sleep. She did the same briefly at 12. She then slept until 5.40 WOOP WOOP

The second night she woke at 9ish and the same happened, but she put herself back to sleep (quicker than the previous night). A few minor moans in the night but slept until 5:30

Last night there was a brief noise at 9. She slept until 2 when she woke and did get upset. I gave her water and put her back down with sh/pat and she slept until 5:40

I think it may be down to no sh/patting to sleep. Also I am further from her cot now getting closer to the door. I think she has taken to her lovely too, or it could be the dropped night feed, slightly earelier bed time? Who knows, but something has improved the awful situation. I am keeping my fingers croseed this continues

[anna*]

What a great update!! well done!!!