Please help 20mth waking all the time

[evans and bethans mum]

Hi ,
   You will all probably think I'm a terrible mum but here goes.
I have a lovely 20mth old little girl bethan who doesn't seem to sleep.
She has only slept thru when she was 2 weeks old and that was for two weeks, the funny part of that is i was in ICU  and the night she started sleeping thru was the night i was put on lifesupport and the day i woke she stopped sleeping thru weird huh !!!!.
We got her off her night time bottles about3 mths ago as she was still waking for them, we did that cold turkey really i went in to her after 10 Min's and then left it longer and she was great after 2 nights but now she wakes constantly every hour from 1 am for her dummy.
I know i should get rid of them but i am so tired i don't know where to start lol.
My husband got her into a routine while i was in hosp that worked for him he would basically give her milk every 4 hours so if goes into her on a night she thinks weeeheyyy its bot bot time,so i don't let  him  go in.
we also have 5 year old little boy who has aspergers and i sometimes feel like i am loosing the plot ,I'm really tired upset and i feel so guilty i have given her this routine, You would think coming from a autistic home i should be a expert at routines. lol.
her routine at the moment is.

Wake 6am.
Breakfast 7am.
nap 11am.
lunch 12.30 to 1pm ish.
Tea time 4.30pm
bed 7pm.


please help.xx Jo

[clazzat]

Sorry I don't have any advice, but my 20-month-old wakes at night too so I am sending you some sympathy (((hugs))).

[alohahellokitty]

Does she require you to give her the paci or could you just put lots in her bed so she can find it herself?

What is she doing when she wakes? Does she require you to go in to her or could you see if she can settle herself?

The only thing I can see with your routine is she has quite a bit more A time during the afternoon than the morning. Do you think she is going to bed OT, therefore making the NW's worse?

[*Becky*]

Hi there,
Please don't be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you have been through a rough time and it is not easy getting lo's onto a routine as there are so many things that get in the way!
I also would try to push the nap back a little to maybe 11.30am and see if that helps at all. 6 hours is quite a long A time in the pm.
Are there any teeth issues at the moment?
Do you want to wean the dummy?
There are lots of great ladies on this site who will help you get through this with gentle methods of sleep training.
HTH
Becky x

[parmar1]

Hiya
Just wanted to offer hugs and to let you know that you are not alone. I have a LO who is 20 months and still wakes at night and we went cold turkey on night feeds a few months back too...Your doing a great job and please dont be too hard on yourself.
Teething affects night sleep massively here - my LO is getting her molars so sleep is all over the place...

sending sleep vibes

take care

x

[evans and bethans mum]

aww thanks for all the replys.
Bethan had a later nap today but woke and cryed for a hour.
Will see how she goes tonight, I have put the cot bumper on tonight in the thinking the dummies cant fall out of cot and she could find them easily.
She usually wakes and i have to put a dummy in her mouth sometimes she is laid there mouth open lol.
i do want to get rid of them soon.
She seem to be getting a few more teeth so that must be it.
I will keep you all posted on our progress . thanks again

[alohahellokitty]

Well hugs, because teething is hard!!! Hard on everyone! Especially the LO's!!

The bumper is a GREAT idea because it keeps them in there so she might be able to find them easier!! And at 10 months its no longer a safety problem.

Maybe tonight she'll find it by herself!! One can always hope.

Yes teething REALLY messes up sleep!! Big time.

Whenever you want to wean it there is tons of support here for you. I have to say I didn't wean my first lo during teething though. Thats a bit rough.

Once those teeth are through you'll be back to normal in no time.
Hang in there!!!!!!!

[evans and bethans mum]

thanks so much everyone,well for two nights i have only had to go in once so thats good.
The bumper definatly works as up until now there has only been her in the cot!! we dont use covers just gro bags going to get another one as this bumper is for a cot and she now in a cott bed so its a little small.
Thanks again you have all been so helpfull. xxxx