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waht method
« on: May 19, 2010, 09:52:06 am »
my 15 month old son is screaming and crying when settling not all the time and mainly if wakes once asleep. i dont want to do gradual retreat as i think this wont work and i feel he isnt as bad that i want to risk creating a bigger issue. i tried wi/wo and im not sure if was doing correct, he was sobbing when i layed him bak down and walked out,should i have stayed longer? if i go when he is cring anyway how do i no when to go back? it seems he is worse when i leave again and im scared that this will make his crying longer as he will have incentive to keep going. i dont believe that cc/cio are as bad as others do, but i DONT want to do those things,not for me. can anyone help,as im going through this at the moment and really need advice to get started asap. thankyou!
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Re: waht method
« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2010, 10:57:09 am »
Yes he will still be crying when you walk out. Just listen to his cries for a moment, if he is really crying hard then go straight back in after 15-20 seconds or so. If he is stop-start crying, wait a while longer. It's important to really listen. If you stay for a while to comfort him, yes he will have incentive to keep crying. But if you just go in and then straight out again, there's no incentive.
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Re: waht method
« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2010, 18:45:14 pm »
ok anna thanks, what should i do if when i go in he doesnt stop crying, do i still walk out after a certain time, my plan was to lay him back down say night, night' and leave
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Re: waht method
« Reply #3 on: May 19, 2010, 19:34:20 pm »
Yeh, you don't wait for him to stop crying. Just walk in, lay him down, say good night and leave again.
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Re: waht method
« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2010, 05:28:01 am »
ok i think he will cry for a while, i just hope he doesnt get hysterical,last time he lost his voice!
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