advice please! 10 month old NW. How do I break a habit?

[TobiasMum]

Can someone give me some advice please!

I have a darling 10 month old who wakes once a night and seems unable to resettle himself. It's normally between 12 and 3am and he wakes, cries out and then if I leave him for a few minutes (to see if he can resettle himself) he begins to get really upset. The galling thing is all I have to do is go into his room and lay him back down again and he goes straight off again, so it's almost like he's doing it becuase he wants to see me, to be reassured I@m still there. I know they go through SA around now, but he's at nursery 3 days a week, and has been for 3.5 months and has settled in extremely well.
If it were regular wakings at exactly the same time every night, I'd do WTS since that worked very well with my other son.

Can someone help? What should I do? Do I just keep going into his room lying him down and then going back to bed and hope that he grows out of it? I work so am finding the broken sleep this late on in the day, tiring.
He's also a very early waker too, generally cries out at 5am, but 50% of the time can resettle himself and goes to sleep until 5.45/6am. So why can't he do it in the night?

Any advice gratefully received..

Thanks
Rebecca

[JayLeigh]

Can you post your routine?  How long has NWs been going on? Any recent changes in development?

As far as going into him, I think you are doing exactly what you should. Wait till it is a real cry, go simply go in and lay him down. Especially if he goes right off to sleep.

[TobiasMum]

Thank you.
Our routine is something like this although the days he's at nursery are a little hit and miss...
6am  - wake and bottle 5oz (although I offer him 7)
7am - breakfast (normally 3 tbsp of fruit puree and 2 of baby porridge and a bit of toast to chew on) He's not a great eater and mealtime tend to be a bit of a battle.
9am  - sleep normally for 1.5 hours
10.30 - snack and water
12 - lunch (normally 4-5 tbsp of mushed meat/veg - maybe some of his brothers pasta/snadwich for finger food practice) followed by some banana pieces or soft fruit to chew on. Again this is usually a battle!
12.30/1pm - sleep for 1.5 hours (sometimes just an hour but can occasionally resettle him back to sleep if he seems very tired)
2/2.30 - milk 6oz (offer 7)
4.30/5 - tea (same as lunch)
6.30 - bath, milk (7oz) and bed by 7.

He's never been a great sleeper or eater and has never slept through the night without a feed but these single wakings at this time have been happeneing for about 5 weeks. We dropped the dream feed only about a week ago becuase I just didn't feel he was taking enough food or milk to sustain him but actually it doesn't seem to have made the slightest difference. He's dropped it without any trouble, but the wakings are still happening!
He is crawling and cruising (started about a month ago and is super active.
I don't think it's hunger becasue he's so easy to settle. He's not cold or wet or uncomfortable.
Will it end? I'm so worried that this is going to be a thing that he just does and we just have to cope with it.
Argh!!
R

[JayLeigh]

It could be that his A time needs to be upped a bit. Has he ever slept more than 1.5 hours for his first nap? This is a very common age for their sleep to get a bit wonky. What you want to work towards is extending a nap (perhaps his first as he seems to sleep longer with it) to get a longer more restful nap, and the other can be shorter.  Check out these sample routines. http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=164031.0

If he is not getting a full second nap, the second half of the day can be a long stretch on little sleep. But I noticed his second A time is only about 2-2.5 hours which could very likely mean he is a bit UT for his second nap, that is quite a short A time for his age.

Is he healthy weight? Past about 7 months LOs should not need a night feed, and that could account for poor eating habits during the day. He sounds just like my DS at that age. He would wake for a feed to go back to sleep, it was his little routine, everyone on the board told me to wean him from night feeds almost cold turkey. To he honest, it was a bad couple of nights, but once he realized I was not going to feed him in the middle of the night he stopped waking. He didn't want to wake up just to fight me so to speak. Once you wean the night feed, his daytime appetite should increase.

As far a slowly transitioning to one nap, you can read up on it here. http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=163278.0