general support and reassurance please.

[banjodad]

I guess I'm just posting here so that someone will reply to say that it all gets better eventually.

We had our first baby 9 months ago after which my wife got critically ill and spent 4 months in hospital. SHe won't be able to walk or pick the baby up and carry her for another 6 months or so.
BAby was an angel textbook baby for 8 months. Now constant teething seems to be the problem. BAby naps very easily and independently and is in generally great form during the day. However, bedtime has become a nightmare. Because my wife can't walk we try to settle her downstairs after her bath, however she now won't settle in her cot and my wife then has to go up to our bed and settle her there until she's really drowsy and then I can transfer her to the cot. THis can take up to 2 hours some nights. FOR the last 2 days she has had an ill tummy and lots of dirty nappies so is off her food and formula. My wife is tired from her own recovery and baby seems to need her to settle down. Retraining is hard to broach with my wife's mobility. We really used to value our evening wind down when baby slept and hope hope hope that this phase will pass?

[aidenmc]

Hey there. As a mother of a 10 yo 5 yo and 3 month old, I know for a fact that it does get better.  Whatever the sleeping problem it will improve with age. But I know it's so hard to see that when you are in it. My 3 mo is up throughout the night and does not nap well at all, and it is so hard right now. It feels like it will never end. But I know it will.

I'm sorry your wife is so ill. Sounds like you both have done so well with your lo in spite of that, given how well she sleeps during the day. I wonder if you could get some help with settling at night. Perhaps if you post your routine, someone could give you some suggestions. Is her bedtime perhaps too late? Or maybe she's ready to drop a nap and therefore not tired at bedtime.

Do you give medications for her teething? It can be so hard on some lo's.

I hope it gets better for you soon.

[Love, laughter, & PJs]

Huge hugs!  Sounds like your family has had so much to deal with in the past year but it also sounds like you've done really well through all of it.

Some of this is, for sure, a time issue.  But I agree that if you could post your routine that would be helpful.  Perhaps she's resisting bedtime b/c she's UT or OT.  Let's take a look and see.

That said, when she's sick you'll have to roll with it.  It is really impossible to tweak things when she's not feeling well.

More hugs.