How to deal with NWs caused by separation anxiety?

[Apsof2010]

Hi ladies

DD is 9 and a half months old. She started STTN when she was 2 months old, dropped DF around 6 months old and slept for 11 hrs straight.... Until recently!

She now wakes anytime between 10pm and 2am and it takes us up to 3 hrs to settle her! I think this is caused by SA because she will calm down on me/me stroking her back,  refuses DH although deeply in love with him during the day. She will scream the moment I turn my head away from her.
The last couple of nights she settled with a feed, but then she hadn't taken much milk during the day so I thought hunger could be the case. But then she refuses her morning bottle, is it because she gets one at night?

Here's our EASY on a good day (Times vary a bit)

7:00 wake up and bottle 6 oz usually although refused altogether the last couple of days
8:00 solids
9:30-11:00 nap (I know A time is a bit low here but she gives me the best nap at this time)
11:30 lunch solids
13:30 bottle 6oz
14:00-15:30 nap
16:00 some water and sometimes a snack
17:00 dinner solids
18:00 bath, etc.
18:30 bottle 6 oz (again became a struggle and now I'm lucky if she takes 3 oz)
19:00 sleep
And then NWs!

I think there are more issues than just NWs, she started refusing milk as well, but that will hopefully pass. The NWs started after a bit of traveling and going to a party where it was very loud and she got frightened by popping balloons, that night was a disaster up all night only sleeping with me. It's been 3 weeks now and these NWs keep happening every night. We had a random cole of good nights though. She is in her cot in her room, she does have a dummy but never woke up for it just uses it to fall asleep and then spits it out. She is also on HA formula and lanzoprazole for her reflux.

Sorry for the long post just wanted to give all the relevant info.

Thanks in advance! I feel so bad for poor LO and want to help her and not be so stressed at night, just don't know what to do...
 

[mmom]

Hmmm, I know you say you like a short A first thing, but it seems really short.  Then you have a 4.5 hour last A.  You could get OT NWs with that long A.  I would really lengthen that 1st A and shorten the last one.

Are you sure there isn't anything else going on?  Teeth, developmental stuff?  Long NWs are usually pain related.

Here is some info on SA. http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=62612.0

[Apsof2010]

Hi

Thnk you for your reply and the link. It's very helpful!

No, I am not sure there isn't anything else. I tried to rule out things.
Tried calpol/nurofen before bed - no change.
Tried pitch black or a little light in the room, warmer/cooler...
Reflux seems to be under control, she doesn't seem to be in pain, she just giggles when I go to her at night and then screams when I leave.
Now she started refusing milk, the last couple of nights she didn't drink any of her bed time bottle, so now I believe she does get hungry. But the wakings started long before that.

As always, very confusing.

What i don't get is that she does settle for naps, bedtime without me, without crying, but can't settle at night. DH believes she's having night terrors.