please help figure out our NWings

[monkeymom4]

I would really like some advice on my dd night wakings. We dont have the day naps sorted out yet, but they are getting better, and I really need to get some more sleep at night as i have 2.5 year old and fighting post partum depression as well.
I am not sure what the problem is, she wakes anywhere from every hour of the night to being able to sleep 6.5 hrs in a row....every night is a different time in waking so I dont think its habit - except that she wants her soother back in.
 I am not sure if it is something we are doing during the day, or if its food (she eats 5 bottles of 5-6oz during the day and one 5oz during the night) or reflux (the dr didnt seem to think so but gave us some meds to try - we are going to start trying tonight) or just the connection to her soother (do we have to get rid of it???)
Please have a look at our EASY (or what we can make of it) and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
awake- 7:30
E-8
A-8:20-9:15 (there usually is a 10-15 min downtime before nap)
S-9:15-10 (I usually can't extend this nap)
A-10-11
E-10:45-11 (sometimes when she wakes earlier she wants to eat earlier than 3hrs, and she's grumpy until I feed her)
S-11:30-12:15 (sometimes I can get 1 hr - 1hr 15min by extending)
A-12:45-1:45
E-1:45 ***this is where EASY gets messed up
S-2:00-4:00 (this nap I can usually get 1hr30-2hr by extending it, some days are easier than others)
E-4:30
A-4:45-5:45
S-5:45-6:30
E-6:30
A-6:45-7:45 (bath and ready for bed)
S-7:45-8
During the night she wakes anywhere from 3-10 times per night, usually she has got out of her swaddle or lost her soother - all we do is reswaddle and replug, we never pick her up or rock her back to sleep. She has been able to sleep 6.5 hrs even after losing her soother and some nights its only 2-3 hrs in a row if we're lucky.  She eats 1 5 oz bottle sometime between 3-5am and goes back to sleep.

[anna*]

How old is she? Sounds like you need to get rid of the soother?

[monkeymom4]

Hi thanks for the reply.
She is just over 4mths old.

My husband and i were contemplating getting rid of the soother, i guess my hesistence is not going through the process its hoping that she doesnt come out the other side with another prop (ie if i have to settle her by holding and rocking her to sleep i dont want to be doing that in the middle of the night either)
Is there a "best" way to get rid of the soother so she can self sooth herself back to sleep?
Do you think we should get rid of the swaddle too?

So you think its just a soother thing?
Any advice would be great!

[anna*]

You're right, there's no point replacing one prop with another. You can either try to wean the soother gradually (if you have a look on the Props board you'll find an FAQ about gradual removal for breastfeeding to sleep, you can use the same technique for the soother), or going cold turkey and using PUPD to settle her. I'd probably get rid of the swaddle at the same time so that she can hold onto a lovey or use her hands/fingers to soothe herself.

Of course there's no guarantee that weaning a prop will solve all your sleep issues, but chances are - given that she just needs a replug and a reswaddle to go back to sleep - that it is at least part of the problem.