Swaddling change, and crazy naps

[lovie]

I am so confused. I have really tried to read through these posts and apply the advice, but I think I am making things worse for my DD. She is 12 weeks old and not a great napper.

I don't know if it is because of the swaddle change I made. She has always refused the swaddle, but I keep putting her in a  woombie or velcro swaddle to prevent her from getting out of it. She literally grunts with dissatifaction when I put her in one. I feel like I am scarring her for life. Therefore, I finally decised to let one arm out. I think that it helps her to self soothe a bit more. Now, I have let both arms out.

HOWEVER, her naps are hoorible right now. I really don't think it is because of the swaddle, but it might be along with other factors. Please look at my EASY and tell me what I am doing wrong.

TODAY:

7:10 Eat and start the day
       started to get fussy at 8:10
8:20 S
        9:29 pat shh
        9:45 cries, I wait a little for her to resettle and doesn't happen
        9:38-9:45 patt shh

10:00 Eat
        10:30 Tummy time
         10:45 put in sling to try and wind down (I read somewhere to        prepare 30 min ahead)
        10:58 she starts falling asleep in the wrap so I read the sign and put her down
11:00 S
         11:25 cry and then resettled
          11:30 Cry abd resettle
         11:35- 11:42 patt shh
         12:00 I heard her crying after I tried to take a shower tried to settle her then gave up and tried to do a EASAS, didn't work
         12:10 put her down and she screamed
12:11 Eat (tried to keep in with the routine)
12:17 she fell asleep on breast tried to wake her up
12:28 activity mat
12:40 picked up and walked around
1:05 read some books
1:10 put in blanket
1:15 S
2:00 Crying tried patt/shhh for 20 minutes, picked up and rocked, then put down, she started crying, then turned on her side and patt shh, got very frustrated because she wouldn't settle and had to walk out of the room
2:30 E
3:33 got fidgety, I was going to try and keep her up but thought I should put her down because of all of the bad napping
3:55 cried out and then resettled herself.

I know this isn't the full day, but after writing all of this down I saw that I was worse than I thought I was. I feel like I am all over the place and I don't know where to start. HELP, please!

(I also tried wake to sleep yesterday, I woke her, she went back to sleep and then woke up 10 minutes later)

Beth

[~Karen~]

Hugs Beth.  How's she been getting on for the last couple of days?  Have you tried putting her arms in the swaddle again to see if it makes a difference or does she really not like it?  What sort of A times is she doing?  Do you need to shush/pat her to sleep for all her sleep periods?  Can she self soothe at all? 

[lovie]

Karen,

Thank you so much for the reply! My computer crashed and I had to get a new one, so sorry for my late reply.

DD is doing much better now that I keep her arms out of the swaddle. It has had the opposite effect than I thought it would. I have been trying to pay attention to her signals which are typically arms and legs flailing. (I had a hard time not comparing her to my first's whose signals were always the yawn) She has a shorter A time in the morning, once I put her down, I have to wake her up after 2 hours so her nap won't be too long.

The 2nd and 3rd nap may go straight through, or I go in for 5 minutes and pat and shh. It depends on what we are doing. I have been trying to extend her A time by 5 minutes because I think that she was UT before. It has helped.

The only question I have at the moment is, if we are on 3 hr easy and I do a 1.5 A time, should I let her sleep for over 1.5 hours to 2 hours if she is sleeping still? I have been waking her up to keep with the 3 hour EASY. I just don't want to mess anything that I have going on right now.

Thanks again for writing back!!!!

[~Karen~]

If it's working then I'd stay stick with it.  I found it really hard to wake ds2 though so only woke when it was getting on for quite a while without a feed!  You may be able to start heading towards a 3.5 hour EASY soon and would be able to let her sleep longer.

Here is a link about the transition for when you need it!
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=63161.0