Hi Vicku,
thanks for your calm sane voice!
You asked a question so I'll reply to that and then tell you what's happened since. We haven't dropped any feeds with me going back to work - we had already dropped them, keeping only wake-up and bed-time feeds. That is, the morning 'snack' feed was already gone and a week or so before I went back to work, I did the 'don't offer, don't refuse' approach with the afternoon snack feed. He isn't bothered about it most of the time, particularly if I'm not there. Like I say, he eats pretty well on solids though I'm also trying to get him started on drinking some other form of milk so he's ready when the time comes to wean the evening feed (or I can go out occasionally since pumping is a wash-out).
We may have had a breakthrough last evening. He asked for his feed, we sat down, he fed for a couple of seconds and then bit (thankfully not too hard this time). I did the usual drill (ouch, no biting etc). He seemed really frustrated, almost like the teeth were taking over and preventing him from doing what he wanted to do - feed! So then I turned him away from me and held him on my knee, talked to him a bit and he calmed down a lot. We then tried again and he did a really good long feed on both sides, no biting. And there was PLENTY of milk! This morning, I watched him like a hawk to pre-empt any biting and we got another good feed. Actually, just as he was going in for the chomp, I managed to stop him and remind him 'no biting' etc. We'll see what happens next. I'll try to use the pull-in approach you mention, sounds like a good gentle one.
When I saw how frustrated he was by it, I think the penny really dropped that this is another learning point for him and he needs a lot of help with it. Hope to get BFing back to the oasis of calm it used to be. (Once we learned how to do it!)
Thanks again!
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